girlfriend? So I've been dating my guy (Or now EX) for a year and a half we even lived together in MY PLACE ( with very little contribution from him) for almost a year of our relationship. He is very controlling and thinks he is my husband, but says to me straight out I'm not your husband when it's time to pay the bills!?( what is that all about?) He does treat to dinners and trips, but is only willing to spend money when it comes to us doing something TOGETHER( obviously and mainly because he wants to do it, BUT NOT BY himself) .
Up until a while ago he paid his mother cell phone, car, car insurance, medical insurance, and other bills ( "she couldn't cover"). She doesn't work or want to work and has spent her life brain washing her son (my EX) that all woman are gold diggers and want money from men. In hopes to ALWAYS showing him I was not like that and being in a very difficult financial situation I have never asked him for anything. My Ex husband destroyed my credit and I've been working on recovering from that. I work over 45 hours a week, and I am also a college student. Finally realizing he is always going to be care only about his mother financial well being I finally had an altercation with him about money and how he told me he would lend me his credit to purchase a car and basically threw some stuff in his face, now the relationship has ended and he actually thinks it is my true colors revealing and that I guess in his mind ( i'm a gold digger) I mean it is just so ridiculous... I do not want to believe that he thinks it is wrong for me to mention anything regarding how he gives his mother so much money. We had plans to get married and mover together again but in a place of our own, and I wasn't going to get to that level with him ( for us to work as a team and his mother to get the benefit) I just don't think it is fare.
So what do you think about this situation?
And
DO you think it is correct to tell him i.e- you said you were going to buy your mother a new car, and do not care I am driving an old car I've been trying to get out of. (he said he would lend me his credit, and then never mentioned it again, and now recently said he would buy his mother a new car??)
His responce -what do you think that I am your husband, that you have my kid what I have to buy you a car now ,etc.etc.etc... VERY NASTY! Is this okay?
Or am I acting like a gold digger and I am to concerned about his mother.
Up until a while ago he paid his mother cell phone, car, car insurance, medical insurance, and other bills ( "she couldn't cover"). She doesn't work or want to work and has spent her life brain washing her son (my EX) that all woman are gold diggers and want money from men. In hopes to ALWAYS showing him I was not like that and being in a very difficult financial situation I have never asked him for anything. My Ex husband destroyed my credit and I've been working on recovering from that. I work over 45 hours a week, and I am also a college student. Finally realizing he is always going to be care only about his mother financial well being I finally had an altercation with him about money and how he told me he would lend me his credit to purchase a car and basically threw some stuff in his face, now the relationship has ended and he actually thinks it is my true colors revealing and that I guess in his mind ( i'm a gold digger) I mean it is just so ridiculous... I do not want to believe that he thinks it is wrong for me to mention anything regarding how he gives his mother so much money. We had plans to get married and mover together again but in a place of our own, and I wasn't going to get to that level with him ( for us to work as a team and his mother to get the benefit) I just don't think it is fare.
So what do you think about this situation?
And
DO you think it is correct to tell him i.e- you said you were going to buy your mother a new car, and do not care I am driving an old car I've been trying to get out of. (he said he would lend me his credit, and then never mentioned it again, and now recently said he would buy his mother a new car??)
His responce -what do you think that I am your husband, that you have my kid what I have to buy you a car now ,etc.etc.etc... VERY NASTY! Is this okay?
Or am I acting like a gold digger and I am to concerned about his mother.