Do you have a sister-in-law you don't like?

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Mara

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How do you deal with your cold sister-in-law? Does it effect your relationship with your husband?
It's my husbands brothers wife..they have been married longer than my husband and I so she feels like she is higher up in the family
 
i don't have a sister in-law, but a brother in-law that has pulled my sister away from my family, just try to befriend her, agree with her thoughts and actions, even if you don't (unless the action is illegal). or just ignore her. also, its my sisters husband, so in your case, you cant ignore her
 
Yes, but it's actually my brother's wife, so it's my relationship with my brother that is affected which REALLY stinks, because we've always been extremely close. This sounds like a question my sister-in-law would ask. She might think I'm cold because I choose not to be overly friendly with her. Not many people in the family like her because she is just so wicked at times and competitive all the time (especially with me), so I choose to stay away as much as possible, which means I don't get to see my brother as often as I'd like.
I've had a couple of sit downs with her so that we could get our feelings out in the open. So things aren't as bad as they were before. But it's not like we'll ever be best friends. We are very cordial to one another and we might even share a laugh or two about how similar our children are. but it doesn't go much further than that.
Try talking to her. You might find one thing in common that can keep you at least civil with one another during family events... for your husband's sake. I'm sure he doesn't care to be in the middle. My brother does not wish to, nor does he, choose between the two of us.
Try not to complain to your husband too much about his sister... she IS his sister after all... she was there before you. Talk to your friends and your side of the family about it when you feel the need to vent. But keep him out of it, for the sake of your marriage.
 
I don't currently, but I used to. It was my brother's ex, not my husband's sister, though. It was... annoying. We were all so happy when my brother broke up with her and now we love his fiancé.
 
When I met my kiddo's dad, he has 4 sisters, well for some reason the one that was about a year older than me, could never wrap around the fact that we were together. I think it was cause she was "best buds" with his ex (he left her to be with me). When I got pregnant, she would make comments and say things, when the baby was born, she ALWAYS would say how the baby didnt look like him. I left it alone and just kept smiling. Until a friend of mine, who was a mutual friend of hers, over heard her saying that he was not the father of our son, then i had it. Believe me it bothered me an I told him about her saying that and he got upset cause he wasnt sure who to believe, but he told her off. She didnt like it, but hey keep your mouth shut then. To this day we will say hi when we see each other at family events, but thats about it.
 
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