Do You Feel Rape/Molestation Would Affect Your Sex Life?

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I personally was molested at a young age of 4 by a girl and I have yet to have sexual intercourse with an adult woman. Mine is more of moral obligation to God. I want to get married but do you all feel like it would make you feel uncomfortable to have sex as a young adult or adult?
 
Big time. Rape or Molestation takes away a person's sense of security and trust. Usually a person becomes hyper-sexual or totally prude after such an event occurs.

Personally I would feel absolutely robbed of a decent future functional sexual relationship. Actually, I wouldn't even be able to be fully in tune with anybody because a part of me would be taken if I was ever raped or molested.

Your never the same after someone attacks you like that. My mother and her six sisters were molested by their step father and are absolutely disgusted at the thought of him.

Time heals wounds and closes it up, but there is always a scar.

Whether it effects a person drastically or not isn't a question I can answer, but I do know that they will always remember that event and usually the attacker throughout their lives.

In my opinion, it will most certainly be in the back of their minds to recall upon when ever even the thought of sex comes to mind.

Any Sense? ;)
 
It depends on the person and how much it effected them imo.
Some people are really destroyed and others don't let it connect with their own choices.
 
It is hard for anyone to get past an experience like this. You may need help to move on and have a satisfying relationship with a woman. Part of the solution is to realize that what happened was something that happened at a time when you had little or no control over the situation. It was unfortunate, but it was a long time ago, and it is over. Now is now.
 
You were 4 when it happened? Do you even remember it?
How do you expect something you don't remember to effect you mentally? (unless you let the idea of it but thats entirely your choice.)

I'm also a survivor of molestation. I think it all comes down to you getting over the incident. I don't feel uncomfortable with sex because I don't link that incident with all sex. It was a creepy old man. Not my significant other. Do you get where I'm coming from?

Also, I want to commend you on your obligation to God. I think thats an amazing choice, especially in today's world where casual sex is considered okay. (even with almost half the worlds population dying from AIDS)
 
It is ones own. It depends on the clarify of understanding. One should analyze such things with a pure, strong and fresh mind.

By the way, normally people cannot remember what happened in their life at a very young of 4. It is a surprise that you are able to remember. Anyway we will take it with a pinch of salt.
 
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