I like it when a couple does a choreographed dance. Once you've been to enough weddings, it is boring watching the first dance if they just hold each other & do the "high school sway" I don't expect the dance to be perfect ~ and it's nice to see the new couple having fun together.
You think others should do the dance for them? I was happy that my guests gave up their afternoon & evening to attend my wedding & reception, that they patiently waited while we took wedding photos, and of course happy that they got dressed up for us & bought us wedding gifts. I'm certainly not going to make them jump through any more hoops for us.