Helloooo nurse
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I'm independent, happy, naturally hard to get yet somewhat reserved, ladylike, shy when we first meet but will open up to you (one on one) and if I'm comfortable w. you. I met this guy last summer and was such a gentleman - polite and reserved, shy, and almost soft spoken (he had help from his friends to talk to me and get information). He did all the chasing. We got along right away and actually danced w. each other. He got my number and he was great - not clingy, did his own thing while I did - good stuff. He wanted to "hang out" and he asked me where to go, what to do. We went to dinner and HELLO! It was a freakin interview/assessment. We looked at each other, smiled, laughed- he didn't compliment or touch me that night (which was nice but confusing). he did (however) send me a cute, flirty text before dinner. After that, didn't hear fr. him. At that time, I wasn't in a "relationship" mode so i may have come off as emotionally closed but I was still my true , happy self. If he wanted something, he'll get it so I never contacted him after that. A week later, I wanted to see how he was so I texted him (innocent, right?) and he responded right away but the convo died. I'm big on not wanting to be the "desperate" one and at that point, it felt like beating a dead horse. This guy obviously wants nothing, wasted my time, and I deleted his number.
Months pass by and near the end of last year, I was online and went through these facebook "people you might know" and just added him (and others) on a whim... he accepted right away. Nothing on both our parts. So the beginning of this year, I randomly start thinking of this guy (dated and was friends w other guys) and for some reason, I couldn't get him out of my head. A few weeks ago, I randomly just messaged him, "hey, how are you? what have you been up to?" INNOCENT, friendly, and genuine... i'm not asking him out or wanting to marry him...and i got NOTHING. It's not a big deal but thing is, I get creepy messages/texts from guys (and strangers) all the time and that's when i don't respond... but if someone from my past did (what i did) - ask how they are, how can you not respond back? I'm not a facebook freak, I rarely go on but I know when someone gives me a msg or post via my phone. It's like I did something wrong...I didn't chase the guy but I know I wasn't playing games and if i happen to not pick up my phone right away or arrange to hang out, it was bc I was genuinely busy... my life comes first... I don't think I chased the guy but I am straightforward and innocently asking how he is (as I do w. other friends)... why is he making me feel as if I did something wrong?
this may sound arrogant but I may have already moved on from him. It's a turn off when someone you were "cool" with (even for a bit) isn't genuinely interested in you as a person (not just romantically).
Months pass by and near the end of last year, I was online and went through these facebook "people you might know" and just added him (and others) on a whim... he accepted right away. Nothing on both our parts. So the beginning of this year, I randomly start thinking of this guy (dated and was friends w other guys) and for some reason, I couldn't get him out of my head. A few weeks ago, I randomly just messaged him, "hey, how are you? what have you been up to?" INNOCENT, friendly, and genuine... i'm not asking him out or wanting to marry him...and i got NOTHING. It's not a big deal but thing is, I get creepy messages/texts from guys (and strangers) all the time and that's when i don't respond... but if someone from my past did (what i did) - ask how they are, how can you not respond back? I'm not a facebook freak, I rarely go on but I know when someone gives me a msg or post via my phone. It's like I did something wrong...I didn't chase the guy but I know I wasn't playing games and if i happen to not pick up my phone right away or arrange to hang out, it was bc I was genuinely busy... my life comes first... I don't think I chased the guy but I am straightforward and innocently asking how he is (as I do w. other friends)... why is he making me feel as if I did something wrong?
this may sound arrogant but I may have already moved on from him. It's a turn off when someone you were "cool" with (even for a bit) isn't genuinely interested in you as a person (not just romantically).