my husband left me for another woman about 2 months ago, i'm still in complete shock, so far he has had acces to our 2 young kids at weekends but he is forcing the issue of her being involved i don't want this and have told him he can take me to court for access unless he agrees for her not to see them, he say's that isn't an option as they are moving in together even though they've only just met 12 weeks ago. should i stick to my guns and make him take me to court or shall i just roll over and let her see my kids???? they are only 2 and half yrs, and 5 months old.i don't want to stop my oldest seeing his dad but i just feel it's all moving too fast.
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do i make him take me to court for access?
- Thread starter Joanna
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right firstly your being selfish and its totally understandable , but using the kids is bad bad bad .
if he is a good father and has never been violent toward yourself and the kids then there is no reason to stop him from seeing the kids .
I know he is with someone else and it cuts like a knife and she will see them but at the end of the day you need to respect your children and yourself don't make what is a horrific situ be a worse situ with the courts .
also if you do go to court you'll have to give reasons why you can go through mediation and you say "its cos he left me for another woman " will make you look stupid ! and it will be thrown out he will get access.
as the kid live with you you can say how the see and for how long if you at the moment don't want the kids to see the girlfriend you can stop that but eventually they will see her .
if he is a good father and has never been violent toward yourself and the kids then there is no reason to stop him from seeing the kids .
I know he is with someone else and it cuts like a knife and she will see them but at the end of the day you need to respect your children and yourself don't make what is a horrific situ be a worse situ with the courts .
also if you do go to court you'll have to give reasons why you can go through mediation and you say "its cos he left me for another woman " will make you look stupid ! and it will be thrown out he will get access.
as the kid live with you you can say how the see and for how long if you at the moment don't want the kids to see the girlfriend you can stop that but eventually they will see her .
i_ate_sponge_bob
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If you aren't comfortable with this woman being around your children then you go via the courts, you might even be able to get it put in the agreement that she is not to be around your children, however that's usually only if the person is deemed a danger.
They are his kids too. What gives you the sole right at this point to make decisions like that? I understand your resentment and anger and yes your jealousy, but he wants to see his kids and unless you have papers stating that you are the sole custodial parent he has every bit of rights as you do. Keep in mind that he could pick the kids up from day care and keep them from you unless you get legalities out of the way. I say quit playing games with your children and let him be a dad.