I was abused as a child and came to a point in my life where I could forgive. It became obvious to me that this person was badly disturbed. And now I'm okay with it. I wish this person didn't have nightmares about it today, but they do. It's just sad. But, thankfully, I learned to forgive instead of hate. I know that may sound strange to you. But that's they way it happens, to those of us fortunate enough to put our faith in a merciful God. At least, that's who gets the credit for it. It's not a religious thing. It's really the universal force of agape Love. There's no doctrine to muck it up. Take care.