My nephew and his wife just got their children taken away from them about 3 or 4 weeks ago by Social Services. My brother (nephew's father) gave them a ride to court for this.
The judge asked my brother what he thought about the situation, and he said "I just don't want to see them in foster care".
With that answer they granted my brother custody, which he was never asked about, but for the sake of the 3 children he took them, and has them at his home now raising them.
He is tired, upset, and sick about this emotionally. He is also in his late 50's.
Ok, now - it doesn't look like my nephew or his wife are trying at all to gain them back because they are too busy drinking and doing drugs, just got kicked out of another home, etc.
Their children are so undisciplined and are of hand my poor brother who suffers from diabetes, had back surgery, and has been ill with broncchitis is certainly having a hard time with them.
They will be coming to my home (I live 250 miles away from them) next week for a family wedding and may stay longer.
The children are approximately 11, 9, and 7. They also still wet the bed.
I told my brother the only solution when they come to my home is for them not to drink anything after 7pm, and I will be putting on a pullup on all 3 children to manage this situation better, and protect my furniture (sofa sleeper/beds).
To my understanding the youngest is the worst, and jumps on beds/furniture, and is very destructive and hyper. The middle girl likes to take things that are not hers, and the oldest girl is sassy. They all use bad language because they grew up hearing their parents argue and use foul language.
Because they will all be staying with me, how can I deal with these children in a civillized/loving yet "tough love" manner when they do something wrong, and with the "potty" issue (and to help my brother) without offending him as their grandfather?
Please help. I have a disabled child of my own, and am a widow. My son is very mellow, and suffers from Sensory Integration (sensitive to noise/disruptions).
PLEASE - SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY. THANK YOU.
The judge asked my brother what he thought about the situation, and he said "I just don't want to see them in foster care".
With that answer they granted my brother custody, which he was never asked about, but for the sake of the 3 children he took them, and has them at his home now raising them.
He is tired, upset, and sick about this emotionally. He is also in his late 50's.
Ok, now - it doesn't look like my nephew or his wife are trying at all to gain them back because they are too busy drinking and doing drugs, just got kicked out of another home, etc.
Their children are so undisciplined and are of hand my poor brother who suffers from diabetes, had back surgery, and has been ill with broncchitis is certainly having a hard time with them.
They will be coming to my home (I live 250 miles away from them) next week for a family wedding and may stay longer.
The children are approximately 11, 9, and 7. They also still wet the bed.
I told my brother the only solution when they come to my home is for them not to drink anything after 7pm, and I will be putting on a pullup on all 3 children to manage this situation better, and protect my furniture (sofa sleeper/beds).
To my understanding the youngest is the worst, and jumps on beds/furniture, and is very destructive and hyper. The middle girl likes to take things that are not hers, and the oldest girl is sassy. They all use bad language because they grew up hearing their parents argue and use foul language.
Because they will all be staying with me, how can I deal with these children in a civillized/loving yet "tough love" manner when they do something wrong, and with the "potty" issue (and to help my brother) without offending him as their grandfather?
Please help. I have a disabled child of my own, and am a widow. My son is very mellow, and suffers from Sensory Integration (sensitive to noise/disruptions).
PLEASE - SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY. THANK YOU.