Chris Eason
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Now for my issue. Three nights ago, she texted me at 1:30am saying she was at a bar that she heard I might go to that night. I had inadvertently fallen asleep earlier, so I didn't go out that night. Having been in a dry spell, and remembering a conversation with my buddy's girlfriend about how any thing after midnight is a booty call, I told her I was gonna "watch a movie." She responded positively, so I invited her over and she came. We flirted for like three hours, before making out in the bed and getting a bit handy. No sex though. Next night the friends went out, she offered to drive me home. She slept in bed with me, but nothing happened. I may have been able to make something happen but I kinda passed out, too drunk to play flirty games with a chick who has a boyfriend. That ended up being the mind set I was in all of yesterday, telling myself I'm not gonna be some boy toy. If she wants to get drunk and fuck I guess I'd be down, but I'm not gonna play games. That's what I was telling myself until one of the other girls who works with us texted me today to say she just had a long talk with her, and saying that it looks good for me. (she knows all the background as I was going to her for advice then) But then, of course, being the lame-O B that she is, she left me hanging with that cause she is "watching toy story 3 with her bf" so she'll have to talk to me later. She says it's a long story (imagine that).
Anyway... I don't know what to do. It sounds like this girl is ready to date me now, but I don't wanna come out of this thing looking like a bitch you know? I completely opened up to her twice and got shut down, twice. As far as I was concerned, we were just good friends, we could always still hang out without it being awkward. I'm not gonna jump into a relationship with her right away, that's for certain, but I don't want to throw away a potentially good relationship out of spite.
There are other variables, for one, she cheated with me. That would cause trust issues. I like to think that she only did it because it was me, and I know she isn't a promiscuous girl, it was like she was cheating more emotionally than physically, but technically she still cheated. (I never have)
The last thing that bothers me, is that I'm kind of worried about getting "stuck" in another relationship I've got a lot of time spent in serious, long term deals therefore a bit hesitant to jump into another one. If it doesn't work, I doubt we could keep the friendship this time.
Oh, and to further complicate things, I am still on very friendly terms with all three of my exs, and they are all friends with each other (including the new girl), but they all met through me.
Whew, feels good to type it all out and break it down for myself. Sincere thanks to anyone who made it this far, and has any advice.
Anyway... I don't know what to do. It sounds like this girl is ready to date me now, but I don't wanna come out of this thing looking like a bitch you know? I completely opened up to her twice and got shut down, twice. As far as I was concerned, we were just good friends, we could always still hang out without it being awkward. I'm not gonna jump into a relationship with her right away, that's for certain, but I don't want to throw away a potentially good relationship out of spite.
There are other variables, for one, she cheated with me. That would cause trust issues. I like to think that she only did it because it was me, and I know she isn't a promiscuous girl, it was like she was cheating more emotionally than physically, but technically she still cheated. (I never have)
The last thing that bothers me, is that I'm kind of worried about getting "stuck" in another relationship I've got a lot of time spent in serious, long term deals therefore a bit hesitant to jump into another one. If it doesn't work, I doubt we could keep the friendship this time.
Oh, and to further complicate things, I am still on very friendly terms with all three of my exs, and they are all friends with each other (including the new girl), but they all met through me.
Whew, feels good to type it all out and break it down for myself. Sincere thanks to anyone who made it this far, and has any advice.