Differences in relationship... different financial goals and understandings.?

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I have a girlfriend that I hope to be my lovely wife but we have this difference between us that really worries me. She was born in a very wealthy family that today doesn't have much left, I was raised in a common upper middle class one. I want to be very successful and have a conformable life with money to comfort my family with private schools, good food, health care and nice leisure times. I know Im on my way to it but understand it takes time(I have a full time job and also am starting my own business).

She doesn't seem very patient with it so we end up getting into some bad arguments about this matter. She's a gorgeous women (honestly) and could easily be with any rich guy from Beverly Hills, all she needs is a skirt and a pair of high hills (seriously!). She chooses to be with me that am just doing my thing, working my way up.

Wondering how to deal with the situation, I feel like somebody out there might have gone through this already and could have something positive to say.

Oh, by the way, she has a 14 years old daughter which I love and take good care of. She's 30, Im 32. No, it's not my kid.

Thanks everybody!
 
All I have to say is to be very, very wary of anyone who is impatient with the amount of money you are making, especially if you have shown that you are responsible and mature with the money you do have. What is she going to do if your business never takes off and, despite your best efforts, you don't get a job that pays much better than the one you have? Would she be content to live in an average home, with average schools and average cars?

This is something you HAVE to discuss and work out before marriage. If she can't be content with just you, then she doesn't love you, she loves what you provide.
 
All I have to say is to be very, very wary of anyone who is impatient with the amount of money you are making, especially if you have shown that you are responsible and mature with the money you do have. What is she going to do if your business never takes off and, despite your best efforts, you don't get a job that pays much better than the one you have? Would she be content to live in an average home, with average schools and average cars?

This is something you HAVE to discuss and work out before marriage. If she can't be content with just you, then she doesn't love you, she loves what you provide.
 
I think that these kinds of differences can seriously cause problems. I think that as a couple you should have a common goal and common vision. My boyfriend and I have talked about financial and future goals and whatnot. We came to an understanding of what we want as a couple.

She had a baby at 16? Yikes.
 
Doesn't seem very patient with the fact that you are working full time and starting your own business? What, it has to all happen now? Pffft. I don't care if she is gorgeous or not, she sounds spoiled. You can thank mommy and daddy for that one.
 
Doesn't seem very patient with the fact that you are working full time and starting your own business? What, it has to all happen now? Pffft. I don't care if she is gorgeous or not, she sounds spoiled. You can thank mommy and daddy for that one.
 
All I have to say is to be very, very wary of anyone who is impatient with the amount of money you are making, especially if you have shown that you are responsible and mature with the money you do have. What is she going to do if your business never takes off and, despite your best efforts, you don't get a job that pays much better than the one you have? Would she be content to live in an average home, with average schools and average cars?

This is something you HAVE to discuss and work out before marriage. If she can't be content with just you, then she doesn't love you, she loves what you provide.
 
I think that these kinds of differences can seriously cause problems. I think that as a couple you should have a common goal and common vision. My boyfriend and I have talked about financial and future goals and whatnot. We came to an understanding of what we want as a couple.

She had a baby at 16? Yikes.
 
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