Did your parents argue or fight around you? How did it affect you?

My parents argued really badly when I was young. They ended up splitting up and I was still gutted. I missed my Dad so badly and my Mum was devestated so the atmosphere around the house was awful for a while and my school work was affected pretty badly.

It did affect me at the time. I had mood swings and would cry when my Mum cried but in a way it has made me realise that I dont want to make that mistake and me and my partner never argue in front of our daughter. If things weren't working between us then we would split up. I don't believe in staying together for the sake of the kids as it is sometimes better for them if their parents aren't together. You can still be a good mum and the father can still be a good Dad as long as you work at having an amicable split.
 
My parents didn't argue a lot or if they did they didn't argue in front of us much, but they did occasionally argue. They have been married for 46 years. I think that major arguing in front of children is bad, but it is ok to disagree with each other. It teaches kids how to resolve issues.
 
my step dad and mom always faught in front of me and when they divorced, i was relieved. i could stand my step dad. fighting in front of your child can only have negative affects on them.
 
I only remember a few arguments, I was around 7-8 years old. A couple were so bad that I remember going outside and sitting on the side of the house, putting my hands over my ears, and crying. It's weird though, after that short period of arguing, I don't remember any more, even to this day (and I'm almost 33). They are still happily married.


Those few arguements affected me enough that I refuse to argue in front of my children. As hard as it is for me to swallow my pride and bite my tongue, I've learned how to do it.
 
My father was very, very abusive - emotionally in front of us and physically behind doors. My mom finally left him when I was 7 and it was one of the best days of my life!!

It effected almost every aspect of my life (I'm now 27)...still does. I absolutely REFUSE to even argue with my husband if my kids are home. (Just because they're not in the same room, doesn't mean they cant hear). Growing up I was very very particular with the guys I would date....which luckily ended me up with a GREAT guy that I've been with for 11 years.

In my opinion, as much as I hated it, it made me a stronger woman. There are some things I just refuse to accept or give in on that were a direct result of the fighting.

Good luck.
 
My parents are still together, but when I was young my father had to take a job he hated to support our family. I didn't understand it at the time, but it put a strain on their marriage and they fought A LOT, pretty much every night they would be screaming at each other and my brothers and I would be hearing every word. Sometimes my dad would leave and spend the night somewhere else.

I wouldn't say it affected me personally, but it affected how I thought a marriage should be. Sometimes I find myself picking fights with my husband if we haven't fought in a while. I always equated marriage with fighting.

I never told them it affected me in that way. They would probably feel badly if they knew.
 
Yes, all the time... It was awful, and they stayed together... I really wanted them to get divorced.

It bothered me even more, to know that they adopted me, when they had no business in doing so, since they ALWAYS fought. Seriously, they set a horrible example of marriage; cussing, throwing things, bullying each other, name-calling... They had three biological kids of their own, then adopted me, because my mom 'wanted a girl.' Sorry, that reason is simply not good enough!

Parents who think it doesn't affect their kids, are living in a dream world, and they need a rude awakening... I promise, kids don't give a rat's bum *what* the parents think is so important that it 'needs' to be argued about; they just want them to STOP! Yes, it has affected me... To this day, I want nothing more than peace and harmony.

*edit* Like others have mentioned, I get some anxiety/irritability when couples fight... When my parents come over---if they start to have even a little tiff---I warn them that they will stop, or they will leave... Honestly, I feel sorry for them. And, for myself as a child... I was robbed of a decent childhood, could never have friends over, was afraid, and pretty lonely. (And, I was always 'referee,' something a young child should NEVER have to be for their supposedly adult parents... They knew it affected me, and they continued on... I remember telling them---when I was 8---"I hope I NEVER have a marriage like yours!")
 
My parents fought constantly...verbally AND physically. 25+ years later they're still together and get along just fine now that they're both in their 'golden years'...its the kids (me, my brother and sister) who are all messed up now, and unable to have satisfying relationships. I've been divorced twice (I'm 52), my brother (48) once...and possibly going on his second...and my sister (the youngest at 42) has never married.

I used to pray every night that they'd split up...no dice.
 
my parents split when i was a few months old so i wouldnt know if THEY actually fought but knowing my mom they probably did. My mom raised us on her own but there were many boyfriends that came and went and yes they argued all of the time, well more like she argued with them. I was always relieved when they split up.
 
yes my mam 7 dad were always fighting at it made me a bundle of nerves i make sure My children never go through what i went through as it has a detrimental effect cheers angela
 
My parents fought ever moment of every day. I hated it. I was always yelling for them to stop. It kinda made me depressed and I often would see my mother crying.
They eventually split up. My dad left. He spoke with me before he did though explaining to me why he had to leave and it was healthy the life he was living.. I was sad but at the same time relieved all they fighting stopped.. My dad has moved on and he's happy now. His blood pressure came down and so did my moms. So if you think about it it saved them both in the long run. My mom is still sad alot of the times cause she's lonely. But it was best that they split up. Wish things could have been different but its not.
 
They fought horribly in front of me and my sisters. They divorced and it was a great relief. How it affected me is I 35 years still jump at loud noises and startle very easily.
 
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