drkangel210e
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My husband and I are both 25 and have been married for five years. I love him and I know I want to be with him for the rest of my life. We have a five month old daughter who we both love dearly.
Here's the problem: we mutually accumulated a large amount of debt during college and have four degrees between us. I'm making money staying at home as a writer (around 25K-30K) and I watch my daughter. We're struggling to find him a permanent job in his field. All we can find are contract positions, and there's usually a month of downtime between being able to find him another when one is over. This leads to a great deal of stress. Sometimes I feel like hurting myself. To top things off, his car was totalled last week (luckily he was ok). Now, he's been offered a position that's a 1 1/2 hour commute each way and only on the weekends. He has to take it or we won't be able to make rent. We only have one car now, and it's a piece of junk.
Basically, I'm horribly depressed and feel like we don't have a future. We tried to do all the right things and now we're getting nowhere. I lash out at my husband even though he's doing everything he can to make things work and so am I. How do I get myself together and be more supportive of my husband through this? If we had the money or insurance I'd get help, but we don't have anything like that...
My degrees are liberal arts oriented, so essentially I'm making what I'd be expecting in a full-time position outside the home. The only difference is we don't have to pay for childcare if I stay home, so it helps. He has a chemistry degree and a mathematics degree from a great school. Theoretically, he should be able to find a job. Unfortunately, companies aren't hiring for full-time positions. I'm not freaking asking for financial help here, just advice. If I had it to do over again, I would have majored in something useful but what's the point in playing what if?
You're right about finding something outside of his degree field. He works moving boxes and does construction part-time. I'm looking into picking up bartending in the evening like I did in college. I think it's really the lack of any security that's messing with me. We've kept our heads above water for almost two years now, and nothing secure has come along so far.
Zoom: that's a great idea! I'll look into that. Thanks!!
Here's the problem: we mutually accumulated a large amount of debt during college and have four degrees between us. I'm making money staying at home as a writer (around 25K-30K) and I watch my daughter. We're struggling to find him a permanent job in his field. All we can find are contract positions, and there's usually a month of downtime between being able to find him another when one is over. This leads to a great deal of stress. Sometimes I feel like hurting myself. To top things off, his car was totalled last week (luckily he was ok). Now, he's been offered a position that's a 1 1/2 hour commute each way and only on the weekends. He has to take it or we won't be able to make rent. We only have one car now, and it's a piece of junk.
Basically, I'm horribly depressed and feel like we don't have a future. We tried to do all the right things and now we're getting nowhere. I lash out at my husband even though he's doing everything he can to make things work and so am I. How do I get myself together and be more supportive of my husband through this? If we had the money or insurance I'd get help, but we don't have anything like that...
My degrees are liberal arts oriented, so essentially I'm making what I'd be expecting in a full-time position outside the home. The only difference is we don't have to pay for childcare if I stay home, so it helps. He has a chemistry degree and a mathematics degree from a great school. Theoretically, he should be able to find a job. Unfortunately, companies aren't hiring for full-time positions. I'm not freaking asking for financial help here, just advice. If I had it to do over again, I would have majored in something useful but what's the point in playing what if?
You're right about finding something outside of his degree field. He works moving boxes and does construction part-time. I'm looking into picking up bartending in the evening like I did in college. I think it's really the lack of any security that's messing with me. We've kept our heads above water for almost two years now, and nothing secure has come along so far.
Zoom: that's a great idea! I'll look into that. Thanks!!