Dating a college virgin?

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Greg

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So, I'm 20 and this girl is 21. We met drunkenly at party about about three or four weeks ago, she came back, turned out she didn't want to do anything sexual. I didn't push anything that night, but had to ask drunkenly the next weekend. She's a virgin, but not concerned about keeping it until marriage for religious purposes or anything. We've gone on a few dates: her sorority semi-formal deal, my fraternity semi-formal, a Disney movie, and met up a few times at the dining hall for meals. She's spent the night in my dorm (tiny single), but kept her pants on. I really like this girl, but the lack of sexual interaction always leaves me confused as hell about my feelings for her/how the night went.

I never thought I would be dealing with this at this age. I feel like there's a big unnecessary build-up since we haven't done anything but kiss. How should I proceed with this? Do I make it official before Christmas break/before either of us has been sexually gratified? Can I bring up the subject or should I put my or her hand in the other's pants? If so, drunk or sober. Advice please.
 
i know she's good coz she haven't lost her virginity in 21 and she will keep it until marriage. u guys are stupid because u only like girls who will give u a sexual attractiion!
if u dont like her then break her up! she will find another good guy than u!
 
LOL... so you've gone on a few dates with this girl, and you expect her to give up her virginity to you so easily? Haha, think about it. There are reasons for why she hasn't lost it in the past. How about you give her some time to really feel comfortable and ready, and then try your little plans. Haha, guys are so stupid.
 
Im in here same situation (except for age, im 17 and in high school) Im not doing it for religious reasons or waiting for marriage either. In HS guys are, well, horney. I understand your need for sex, trust me it SO hard to not give give in the moment (don't take advantage of "the moment" feeling, Im pretty sure she will resent/regret that) Anyway, like I said, guys who date me want sex, but you see im waiting for the "one" not the guy im going to marry, just the guy that I fall in love with.

What you have to do is ask yourself these questions...Are you willing to be her "one?"

yes- if yes, then take it slow, have respect for her and just know that when/if you do have sex it will probably be SO much more special because you work for it and she trust you so much that she would give you her innocence.

no- then move on, you probably aren't what shes looking for, nor is she what you are looking for.

what do you want? Relationship, or sex?

relationship- then pursue it, if it doesn't work out then what have you got to lose, every person can enrich your life by what you learn from one another.

sex- That's fine! No judgment, go party, have fun, your a college student, and its YOUR life.


Its a person choice to be a virgin or not, and its rare so someone her age to be avirgin, honor her for it and don't push anything, if you want to pursue a relationship with her, you will probably have to wait a few months before she "gives in."
 
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