Dangerous mother-in-law? What to do?

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My wife and I just had a kid. Her mom wants to intervene desperately. Several things concern me:

She doesn't speak English. If home alone with child how can she call 911 when they cannot understand her.

In her home country, she grew up in a village. She has no more than a 4th grade education and is illiterate in her own language. Anyway, she killed her first child by overfeeding it. She stuffed bread down a baby's mouth! She is so stupid and it is a sad, unnecessary loss of life. Neighbors and her grandparents mostly raised my wife because she didn't know how, especially after killing one child.

She's clumsy. I mean super clumsy. She dropped my wife down a flight of stairs when she was 3. Luckily she is not brain damaged but the mom does stuff like this all the time. She can't even use a fork and knife - she eats with her hands! It's unbelievable! And she is not developmentally challenged (I guess it depends on one's definition!).

She's lazy and crazy superstitious as well....
She works a job for 4 hours a day at a bakery and complains relentlessly. She alls my wife every half hour and talks about the most non-relevant, unimportant stuff ever. She had my wife's secretary pull her out of a meeting to tell her that she had a dream that my wife was mean to her and that she needs to apologize - WTF!?!? She tries to impose her old-school superstitions on our baby for perceivable "luck" reasons. They are things that endanger the baby.

I got laid off two weeks ago and we're thinking about jusy having me stay home with the baby permanently. This is hard to do financially and would love a grandma's help but this is just not going to work. My wife thinks she be fine - I can't stand how my wife always feels guilty and gives in to her mom. The lady turns my wife into a 5 yr old every time through guilt and manipulation.

It's sad, but I'm honestly wishing this lady's mortality takes its course soon. She is such a drag on our lives and my wife's mental state.
 
On the off chance that you are not a troll.......

I would keep her away from the child. If she is as dumb as you say she is then she should not be left alone with the child!!
 
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