Dance with other and jealousy problem - really hot topic for me and my woman!?

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Kenzo

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I have one question about dance and jealousy. My girlfriend and I have a relationship more than one year now. We really love each other. We go out and have fun in different ways many times. But there is one thing. I don't dance very well and she likes to dance very much. Lately she would like to dance even with other men. I told her that I don't like that. OK, she can dance in a group with other, male or female, that doesn't bother me, but dancing one on one does bother me. I asked her if I was good dancer, would she be satisfied to dance only with me, she said no, she would still dance with other, even close dances like tango, salsa, etc. Even if I would be there, seeing her doing so. I got angry that someone else would be touching her. Than she got upset how come I don't understand that she dances only because of dance and not of other men. And saying that she really hears that man wouldn't like his woman dancing with other for the first time in her life. That is something wrong with me. Because of that we had a big argument.Now, I know it is big jealousy on my side. I wouldn't like to limit her freedom for otherwise she is very independent and intelligent woman. I love her very much but can't be at ease with that dance problem.
Probably you all had ,know of or heard of for such cases.Can someone please tell me, what is RIGHT or WRONG in this dance-jealosy area.

Thank you!
 
She sounds a lot like me.
My boyfriend doesn't dance and I love dancing with other men but my boyfriend says it's a form of flirting and definitely wrong.
So to end all conflict I just keep to myself when I'm out and dance with my female friends instead.
Your jealousy is normal, dancing does involve a lot of close contact and there's nothing wrong with you wanting to be the only guy who gets to be so intimate with her.
If you really mean a lot to her she'll understand and make a compromise- like maybe she can agree to dance with other men as long as it's not a close dance like the salsa or something.
 
She sounds a lot like me.
My boyfriend doesn't dance and I love dancing with other men but my boyfriend says it's a form of flirting and definitely wrong.
So to end all conflict I just keep to myself when I'm out and dance with my female friends instead.
Your jealousy is normal, dancing does involve a lot of close contact and there's nothing wrong with you wanting to be the only guy who gets to be so intimate with her.
If you really mean a lot to her she'll understand and make a compromise- like maybe she can agree to dance with other men as long as it's not a close dance like the salsa or something.
 
Hi, I am a dancer too, and I can understand your girlfriend's perspective. For me, when I dance, it has nothing to do with sex really, only dancing. I love to dance, and when I go out, I want to tango and salsa. However, I draw the line when someone is being inappropriate or trying to feel me up. I dont like that at all and it is not appropriate. Maybe you can talk to her. If she wants the freedom to dance with other guys, maybe that is cool. But, maybe you can say that you just want to protect her, and you dont like guys feeling her up. Think of it this way, she is going home with you! They can look and dance, but they cant have her....that is sexy, only for you....I dont know. Hope it helps.
 
Hi, I am a dancer too, and I can understand your girlfriend's perspective. For me, when I dance, it has nothing to do with sex really, only dancing. I love to dance, and when I go out, I want to tango and salsa. However, I draw the line when someone is being inappropriate or trying to feel me up. I dont like that at all and it is not appropriate. Maybe you can talk to her. If she wants the freedom to dance with other guys, maybe that is cool. But, maybe you can say that you just want to protect her, and you dont like guys feeling her up. Think of it this way, she is going home with you! They can look and dance, but they cant have her....that is sexy, only for you....I dont know. Hope it helps.
 
Hi, I am a dancer too, and I can understand your girlfriend's perspective. For me, when I dance, it has nothing to do with sex really, only dancing. I love to dance, and when I go out, I want to tango and salsa. However, I draw the line when someone is being inappropriate or trying to feel me up. I dont like that at all and it is not appropriate. Maybe you can talk to her. If she wants the freedom to dance with other guys, maybe that is cool. But, maybe you can say that you just want to protect her, and you dont like guys feeling her up. Think of it this way, she is going home with you! They can look and dance, but they cant have her....that is sexy, only for you....I dont know. Hope it helps.
 
She sounds a lot like me.
My boyfriend doesn't dance and I love dancing with other men but my boyfriend says it's a form of flirting and definitely wrong.
So to end all conflict I just keep to myself when I'm out and dance with my female friends instead.
Your jealousy is normal, dancing does involve a lot of close contact and there's nothing wrong with you wanting to be the only guy who gets to be so intimate with her.
If you really mean a lot to her she'll understand and make a compromise- like maybe she can agree to dance with other men as long as it's not a close dance like the salsa or something.
 
Hi, I am a dancer too, and I can understand your girlfriend's perspective. For me, when I dance, it has nothing to do with sex really, only dancing. I love to dance, and when I go out, I want to tango and salsa. However, I draw the line when someone is being inappropriate or trying to feel me up. I dont like that at all and it is not appropriate. Maybe you can talk to her. If she wants the freedom to dance with other guys, maybe that is cool. But, maybe you can say that you just want to protect her, and you dont like guys feeling her up. Think of it this way, she is going home with you! They can look and dance, but they cant have her....that is sexy, only for you....I dont know. Hope it helps.
 
She sounds a lot like me.
My boyfriend doesn't dance and I love dancing with other men but my boyfriend says it's a form of flirting and definitely wrong.
So to end all conflict I just keep to myself when I'm out and dance with my female friends instead.
Your jealousy is normal, dancing does involve a lot of close contact and there's nothing wrong with you wanting to be the only guy who gets to be so intimate with her.
If you really mean a lot to her she'll understand and make a compromise- like maybe she can agree to dance with other men as long as it's not a close dance like the salsa or something.
 
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