Dad going to jail.. how long..?

Yesterday, police came looking for him. He decided he would leave. Today while I was getting ready for school they come again. But he's here. They didn't know where he was, so they made ME point out his room. I feel absolutely terrible. I PUT MY DAD IN JAIL. I feel horrible about telling them. I want to crawl into a hold and die. :[ I thought yesterday I would be alright because as long as I told myself to shut up and stop being a drama queen, I'd be alright. Today, when they took him, even if I tell myself I'm being a bitch and need to stop crying they wont stop. This is his 2nd felony. What do I do? I feel depression setting in. I want to sleep all day and never wake up. I'm 12 and have a 6 year old brother, how much would this affect him? Sometimes, when I need to cry I tell myself this: It's not going to affect me, and just STOP being a bitch you need to SHUT UP. That's not working anymore. Anyway, how long could he be in jail? It's his second offense a felony, and it was for Crystal Meth and Fraud. He had his problems, but he was my Dad.. I'm so torn apart. :[ I just need advice..
 
Really sorry to hear that. It's not your fault, they would have found him anyway. Try to be strong for your little brother.
 
First. You didn't put your dad in Jail.. He did it. If he gave a damn about you or your brother he wouldn't have done the crimes that he has done. Yes, he's your dad, and you should love him, but his actions show that his drug habits are more important than you are to him.

What you need to do is to be a good sibling to your lil brother and a good person who doesn't want to go down the same path your dad has gone. You can choose to stay clean and not to get into drugs at all because you know how they can tear a family apart.

Since this is his second felony, he'll likely be in jail for 10 years, if not longer depending on how serious it was. I'd suggest if you can to have your mom get you and your brother some counseling to help deal with your father going to jail.

Instead of telling yourself to shut up, you should tell yourself that "I can do better myself" and be a strong person and focus on your life long goals.
 
It's not your fault at all. The police were going to put him in jail anyway. If you hadn't shown them the room they would have found him. Don't blame yourself, it's not your fault at all.

I don't know how long he could be in jail but try not to worry.

Make sure you look after your little brother and stay close. Give him a hug, i'm sure you'll both feel a lot better!

Who is looking after you now? you have another adult caring for you and your brother right?
 
First off, its NOT your fault. you did not put your dad in jail, he committed a felony and he's being punished for it, nothing you did could have stopped this from happening. I understand that you think its your fault, but there really isnt anything you could have done to stop this from happening , the police would have kept stopping by your house and eventually he would have been caught. In the mean time, i would talk to an adult that you could confide in. you could try to take your mind off of it by joining some extra curricular activities. Secondly, was ur dad the only adult at your house? If so do you have a close relative or a family friend you could stay with for awhile? Im really not sure how long he's going to be in jail for because there are a lot factors that come into play. I hope you feel better!
 
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