Ok so I have a best friend(Jill) who is a girl (im a guy) and basically im just completely confused by this situation. We were casual friends our senior year (because of us both being in relationships) but during the summer became really good friends. We go to the same college and became best friends or what not. She is very playful and touchy and she also confides and me and has told me some pretty deep stuff that she says she would never tell anyone else.
Also she has bailed me out on rent a couple of times when i didnt have the money and im not talking about a small amount and of course I have always paid her back. Now fast forward through a couple of years of just us being cool, but having our ups and down with each other.
I come to where im at now. so within the last i guess 6-8 i developed feeling for her but i never said anything because basically i did not kno if she felt the same way or anything like that. So in august i just said **** it and told her how i felt. That basically went terrible. At the time I was staying at her place for a couple of weeks because i was waiting on my apt to be ready. When i told her i was sort of under the influence (which i feel terrible about but i cant change what happened) and it was over the phone because she had left for the weekend. She came back and told me i had to leave and basically we never spoke again until thanksgiving.(roughly 3 months)
What happened was I saw her mother at church and she pulled me aside and basically was like why cant you work things out with her and she was telling me that she missed me and i needed to call her and stuff like that. I was completely shocked by this because by this time i just thought she basically hated me for that and obviously didnt feel the same way. So after the convo with her mom she texts me sayin could we talk, which we did and have been basically everyday since then. She has told me that ni that 3 months she cried a bunch and was depressed and basically since that happened she also lost her 2 best girlfriends. but the topic of what happened between us has not been brought up by her or me.
Her older sis( jane) has come to me about it which really confused me. Basically Jane said that Jill told her too find out if i was seeing someone now and to see if i had somehow replaced her. Also the convo ended up by her sister sayin that "you know you guys are perfect for each other" and "you guys are gonna get married eventually". So Im not the dumbest guy in the world because i know girls talk and obviously the older sis isnt just coming up with this stuff for no reason. I guess i what i wanna kno is could why cant she talk about it with me, and am i crazy to think that now she feels the same way?
Also she has bailed me out on rent a couple of times when i didnt have the money and im not talking about a small amount and of course I have always paid her back. Now fast forward through a couple of years of just us being cool, but having our ups and down with each other.
I come to where im at now. so within the last i guess 6-8 i developed feeling for her but i never said anything because basically i did not kno if she felt the same way or anything like that. So in august i just said **** it and told her how i felt. That basically went terrible. At the time I was staying at her place for a couple of weeks because i was waiting on my apt to be ready. When i told her i was sort of under the influence (which i feel terrible about but i cant change what happened) and it was over the phone because she had left for the weekend. She came back and told me i had to leave and basically we never spoke again until thanksgiving.(roughly 3 months)
What happened was I saw her mother at church and she pulled me aside and basically was like why cant you work things out with her and she was telling me that she missed me and i needed to call her and stuff like that. I was completely shocked by this because by this time i just thought she basically hated me for that and obviously didnt feel the same way. So after the convo with her mom she texts me sayin could we talk, which we did and have been basically everyday since then. She has told me that ni that 3 months she cried a bunch and was depressed and basically since that happened she also lost her 2 best girlfriends. but the topic of what happened between us has not been brought up by her or me.
Her older sis( jane) has come to me about it which really confused me. Basically Jane said that Jill told her too find out if i was seeing someone now and to see if i had somehow replaced her. Also the convo ended up by her sister sayin that "you know you guys are perfect for each other" and "you guys are gonna get married eventually". So Im not the dumbest guy in the world because i know girls talk and obviously the older sis isnt just coming up with this stuff for no reason. I guess i what i wanna kno is could why cant she talk about it with me, and am i crazy to think that now she feels the same way?