Aren't you already having sex with him if he's your lover? He already knows what you've got to offer and he still likes doing his wife, so I don't see why you're confused.
I really don't see what you want him to see all you are apparently is a piece of a@@. Women like you make me sick. It really shouldn't matter how they have sex the point here is maybe they still do. Maybe you should find someone NOT MARRIED TO HAVE SEX WITH. Women like you break up happy families and are nothing but trash.