Yeah I know, another one of these. But I've been on here for hours and haven't really gotten any answers since I haven't found anyone in the exact same situation as me.
I'm a 19-year-old female, I've always been open-minded and supportive of the LGBT community, but I have never actually been in a same sex relationship. I've only ever had one serious boyfriend and after that I felt like I never wanted to date another guy again. I just feel completely disgusted by them. I get really uncomfortable around men, when they get flirty with me its less of a "butterflies" feeling and more of a painful dreading. But I really haven't dated very many so maybe I'm just not finding the right one? At this point in time though, I just can't see myself being comfortable enough with a man to get married or have sex. I do find some men attractive but its mostly very feminine men who are probably gay...the only man I would want is just a fantasy guy that would never actually exist in real life. Even if he did, the chances of me finding him are one in a million. It just seems like there's no one in real life that I like...I haven't had a crush on a guy in years.
So recently I'm thinking maybe the reason I'm having such trouble with guys is that I'm just not into guys after all....is it possible I could be lesbian, or maybe bisexual? The more I think about it the more it makes sense. I feel so much more comfortable around girls. While I've never thought about girls in sexual ways exactly, I've never ruled them out entirely either. I'd always look at my girl friends and wonder what it would be like to be with them. Just lately, the more I think about being in a relationship with a girl the more appealing it sounds. I can picture myself being much happier with a woman than I can a man. Like I said before, the only man I can really picture myself with would be one who was in many ways like a woman. lol Its just confusing me to no end. Well, what do you think?
I would agree somewhat that the past relationship with a guy has somewhat made me bitter & judgmental of other guys. And at first I thought that's all it was, and decided to just forgo relationships for awhile. But its been a few years now and I'm over him and really want a relationship, but still not feeling like I want to be with any guys.
As far as sexual attraction, I guess that's what I'm most confused about. I do find some guys attractive...but I don't want to have sex with them. The thought kinda disgusts me. Like I said, I never really felt sexual attraction to girls before but I'm wondering if I simply quashed any feelings I might have had for women, because like someone else said, I thought I was meant to be straight. Now that I'm a little more open to the idea that I could be interested in girls, I'm finding them more sexually attractive.
Thanks for the input so far everyone.
I'm a 19-year-old female, I've always been open-minded and supportive of the LGBT community, but I have never actually been in a same sex relationship. I've only ever had one serious boyfriend and after that I felt like I never wanted to date another guy again. I just feel completely disgusted by them. I get really uncomfortable around men, when they get flirty with me its less of a "butterflies" feeling and more of a painful dreading. But I really haven't dated very many so maybe I'm just not finding the right one? At this point in time though, I just can't see myself being comfortable enough with a man to get married or have sex. I do find some men attractive but its mostly very feminine men who are probably gay...the only man I would want is just a fantasy guy that would never actually exist in real life. Even if he did, the chances of me finding him are one in a million. It just seems like there's no one in real life that I like...I haven't had a crush on a guy in years.
So recently I'm thinking maybe the reason I'm having such trouble with guys is that I'm just not into guys after all....is it possible I could be lesbian, or maybe bisexual? The more I think about it the more it makes sense. I feel so much more comfortable around girls. While I've never thought about girls in sexual ways exactly, I've never ruled them out entirely either. I'd always look at my girl friends and wonder what it would be like to be with them. Just lately, the more I think about being in a relationship with a girl the more appealing it sounds. I can picture myself being much happier with a woman than I can a man. Like I said before, the only man I can really picture myself with would be one who was in many ways like a woman. lol Its just confusing me to no end. Well, what do you think?
I would agree somewhat that the past relationship with a guy has somewhat made me bitter & judgmental of other guys. And at first I thought that's all it was, and decided to just forgo relationships for awhile. But its been a few years now and I'm over him and really want a relationship, but still not feeling like I want to be with any guys.
As far as sexual attraction, I guess that's what I'm most confused about. I do find some guys attractive...but I don't want to have sex with them. The thought kinda disgusts me. Like I said, I never really felt sexual attraction to girls before but I'm wondering if I simply quashed any feelings I might have had for women, because like someone else said, I thought I was meant to be straight. Now that I'm a little more open to the idea that I could be interested in girls, I'm finding them more sexually attractive.
Thanks for the input so far everyone.