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MDD: This is sad news, and I really hope things take a turn for the better. You can indeed always find a voice here, or an ear. You stated to me somewhat recently that you had even wanted to leave late last year, and while we always help those who state this find the door I'll let this slide as I feel you're being genuine and have just lost some direction. I am truly sorry for the tornado that has swept through your life recently. I have a PM box, use it sometime.

Bathory: I feel completely justified in my opinion of what occurred (though the term "asshole" was never considered). I kept it quite diplomatic for the most part. Many with significant issues even beyond what she's going through have handled issues better and more maturely showing tremendous character. While I sympathize, and know not everyone has this trait, I won't immediately forgive and forget and that expectation would also show a lack in character. Only with consequences can people begin to appreciate that which they still have, or the value of at least attempting to regain what they may have lost (friends, trust, etc).

While there is a certain expectation as friends to let some things bounce off, I personally set a limit focusing more on those who do not push me away and are actively seeking help or friendship.

Onward...
 
When I was in my early 20's I went through a divorce with a child.

It was difficult, emotionally draining, and more than hard.

I got through it though and so will you.

Hopefully you don't figure out what you want to be when you grow up when you're 30 and figure it out a little sooner.

Think seriously about taking out loans/grants and going back to school when things settle down a little more because at this point everything is about survival.
 
I think all that can be said has been said but I would like to agree with just about all that has been posted.

It's going to be a rough time but you can pull through it. Just know there are people that WANT you to pull through it and shove those that don't into a wood chipper.


You can do it. We all have faith!
 
It seems things can in fact get worse. Lats night he laid hands on me, broke my glasses, dragged me up a flight of stairs by my throat and threatened to kill himself. He also took my phone and house/car keys from me. The paperwork has been started.
 
Sorry, but when I give someone money in exchange for an item or product, I expect to receive what I have paid for in a reasonable time frame. At the very least, I expect an explanation if there are delays. Personal issues are irrelevant to business transactions. If that makes me an asshole, then yes. I am an asshole.

Lynny, I'm very sorry to hear about your troubles. I really hope things get better as quickly as they can. You're strong, you will get through this.

I'm also glad to see you posting here again. This community makes a great support group in times of trouble, bunch of assholes though we may be.
 
I have to agree, Lynny. Get the fuck out and away. Take your babies with you. There's no reason at all that he should have laid hands on you like that, at fucking all.
 
His behavior is utterly unacceptable. He obviously needs someone else's help. I agree. Good luck hun. I hope you do well in this new future. But you gotta move on.
 
You are worth so much more than this. Transition is hard, and I'm glad you are standing up and doing what is right. You can't be in that situation. Period. You don't deserve it, and are worth way more as a person than what you do in the home as a domestic obligation. You filled in on IN a few times, and we always enjoyed having you. You're fun, creative, entertaining, and intelligent. I'm 3D and I approve this message.
 
You need to leave. Find a friend or a family member that can take you in until you get completely back on your feet.
That is utterly ridiculous. Men like that put all other men to shame.

If he took your phone etc. etc. just leave and go to the nearest friend/neighbor etc.

Gotta get out!
 
. . . Were the kids there when all of this happened?

Domestic violence is one thing I have zero tolerance for. I've been arrested on numerous occasions for beating the shit out my friend's ex's who thought they could hit them and get away with it.

This thread is angering me.
 
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