Civilians keep asking me to give good reasons why to be in a military

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family. What should I say? The question is how would you explain why you chose to be with someone in the military if you knew the person would spend more time without you than with you? Literally, the question is how is this beneficial to you? They ask how can love exist between two people in the long run without "real" communication/physical presence? Why don't people with no family join the military so that they don't hurt anyone with their long absences?

I find some of these questions non-sense but I guess it is hard for some civilians to understand us. How would you explain your situation to them?
 
You shouldnt have to explain your situation to anyone but if you want to... first of all you dont chose to be with someone in the military you love the person you love for who they are, not what they're doing. Being in the military just throws another variable into the mix... its not easy but its doable. And as far as long distance love/marriage... anything is possible with faith, hope, love and trust... whether your married into the military or not. Its like having a honeymoon all over again each time they go away and come home. Civilians dont understand how much harder it is and think that its a crazy life... which sometimes it is but... No matter what the situation you stick it out and make the best out of it because thats the road your loved one chose to take and all you can do is support them 100%.
 
First of all, in this economy, it's a very good job to have. The benefits alone are great. Job security is pretty high as well.

As for being apart..that's all relative. My husband and I found that our relationship got better during a deployment because we were forced to communicate. Spending all your time together, you can fall into a rut and take each other for granted. Not easy to do during a deployment! It's not an easy life at times, but his job satisfaction is very high since he loves what he does.

We live in Europe now and are getting to see more of the world than we would have been able to otherwise.

Tell the Mothers and Fathers of our single soldiers/sailors/marines that they aren't hurting anyone with a long absence. Those that aren't in the military have no idea the pride that these service members have in their jobs and what they do everyday, not to mention the family members that serve with them.

I don't like the long absences...but I love the live we have built and the people that we have become close to.
 
awesome med/dental. steady work/pay.
If you are happy together, and with your life style to hell with everyone else. it is none of there business.
 
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