Do you think over all casual sex is a benefit psychologically? For both genders. A man or woman seeking another willing partner and essentially letting them use your body, in exchange for your ability to use theirs without any real sense of pride or profound respect one gets in a genuine relationship. It just seems that if a man or woman with high self esteem not only for themselves but for others, would never allow themselves to be used in that way, or use another.
I'm not judging anyone(rights or wrongs) but I'm just finding it hard to think of high self esteem and casual sex in the same light, I think it's an oxymoron. How can one think so highly of something that they see with indifference. Like a casual wife or husband, it doesn't add up to me. The only way I can make sense of it is by placing it in the middle. Enough self esteem is present in the person to not just sleep with anyone, but enough isn't there to not require the willing partner to posses much or any respect,admiration,pride or love in their character (what's on the inside, basically reduced to your body, physical beauty).Can anyone one who has had casual sex or see nothing wrong with it state how you view sex and how it relates to your self esteem, ability to feel intimate (sexually) with love ones afterward hooking up or flings days are over, almost flipping it on like a switch, not only in searching for respectable person, but wanting to be seen as a respectable person by people with high standards.
Ana M
I'm asking on behalf of a girl I once dated and her story sounds similar to yours. She admitted to having issues with guys after having her heart broken and didn't want anything serious, so I couldn't give her what she wanted because we wanted different things. Thanks for answering.
I'm not judging anyone(rights or wrongs) but I'm just finding it hard to think of high self esteem and casual sex in the same light, I think it's an oxymoron. How can one think so highly of something that they see with indifference. Like a casual wife or husband, it doesn't add up to me. The only way I can make sense of it is by placing it in the middle. Enough self esteem is present in the person to not just sleep with anyone, but enough isn't there to not require the willing partner to posses much or any respect,admiration,pride or love in their character (what's on the inside, basically reduced to your body, physical beauty).Can anyone one who has had casual sex or see nothing wrong with it state how you view sex and how it relates to your self esteem, ability to feel intimate (sexually) with love ones afterward hooking up or flings days are over, almost flipping it on like a switch, not only in searching for respectable person, but wanting to be seen as a respectable person by people with high standards.
Ana M
I'm asking on behalf of a girl I once dated and her story sounds similar to yours. She admitted to having issues with guys after having her heart broken and didn't want anything serious, so I couldn't give her what she wanted because we wanted different things. Thanks for answering.