DH and I jumped on the Christmas shopping early and have purchased all of the presents for our kids. We still have 2 nieces and a nephew to buy for and we planned on only spending $30 on each of them.
Now DH wants to buy for the rest of our family (my parents, brother, 2 SIL's and their SOs, and MIL & FIL) If we only spend $30 and gave the gift as a couple gift it would still be $150
Doesn't sound like much, but it's $150 + $90 on the nieces and nephew that we can't afford to spend. I explained this to my DH and said that while it would be nice we can't afford to buy for everyone, but we will be doing it for the kids.
I thought we had some kind of understanding about our finances and we agreed to only buy for the nieces and nephew.
Rewind to last weekend when we went to my SIL's house for Halloween. DH announced that we would be buying both of my SIL's and their SOs and his parents gift certificates for Christmas to their favorite restaurant....and they would be for $40! On top of that he offered us (pretty much me) up to watch the nieces and nephew if they all wanted to go out together.....wtf!?!?!?!
I'm a pregnant SAHM with my 10 month old and we have my 3 & 4 year old step-sons on the weekends. I barely get 6 hours of sleep on the weekdays and maybe only 2 or 3 on the weekend. The last thing I want to do it add even one more kid for the night, unless I'm popping this one out. I'm completely pissed off that DH would just go ahead and make decisions to do all without consulting me about it. Besides that, both of my SIL's have backed out on watching my daughter on several occasions and I ended up having to drop my college classes because of it. I'm not about to watch their kids so they can have a ball.
It's too late to take any of it back, but I'm highly PO'd about it.
What should I do?
This part may sound kind of rude, but my husband and I (although still poor) and definitely the most financially stable on his side of the family. They are constantly asking to borrow money and/or my husband is giving them money just to help them out. I don't have a problem with helping people out, but this is a weekly thing and it's really starting to piss me off.
I already gave one of my SIL's all of my daughter's baby clothes because she is having a little girl (and so am I) and she's still asking us to buy her a car seat!
dh=darling husband but he's not so darling right now.
Minty Me- yes, yes he does. I actually do have control over the budget (checking account is only in my name) but I just don't want to be rude after he already told them we would.
If it comes down to babysitting, I plan taking my little one and leaving for the night. He can deal with all the other kids
Now DH wants to buy for the rest of our family (my parents, brother, 2 SIL's and their SOs, and MIL & FIL) If we only spend $30 and gave the gift as a couple gift it would still be $150
Doesn't sound like much, but it's $150 + $90 on the nieces and nephew that we can't afford to spend. I explained this to my DH and said that while it would be nice we can't afford to buy for everyone, but we will be doing it for the kids.
I thought we had some kind of understanding about our finances and we agreed to only buy for the nieces and nephew.
Rewind to last weekend when we went to my SIL's house for Halloween. DH announced that we would be buying both of my SIL's and their SOs and his parents gift certificates for Christmas to their favorite restaurant....and they would be for $40! On top of that he offered us (pretty much me) up to watch the nieces and nephew if they all wanted to go out together.....wtf!?!?!?!
I'm a pregnant SAHM with my 10 month old and we have my 3 & 4 year old step-sons on the weekends. I barely get 6 hours of sleep on the weekdays and maybe only 2 or 3 on the weekend. The last thing I want to do it add even one more kid for the night, unless I'm popping this one out. I'm completely pissed off that DH would just go ahead and make decisions to do all without consulting me about it. Besides that, both of my SIL's have backed out on watching my daughter on several occasions and I ended up having to drop my college classes because of it. I'm not about to watch their kids so they can have a ball.
It's too late to take any of it back, but I'm highly PO'd about it.
What should I do?
This part may sound kind of rude, but my husband and I (although still poor) and definitely the most financially stable on his side of the family. They are constantly asking to borrow money and/or my husband is giving them money just to help them out. I don't have a problem with helping people out, but this is a weekly thing and it's really starting to piss me off.
I already gave one of my SIL's all of my daughter's baby clothes because she is having a little girl (and so am I) and she's still asking us to buy her a car seat!
dh=darling husband but he's not so darling right now.
Minty Me- yes, yes he does. I actually do have control over the budget (checking account is only in my name) but I just don't want to be rude after he already told them we would.
If it comes down to babysitting, I plan taking my little one and leaving for the night. He can deal with all the other kids