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My son had cancer. He had testicular cancer. He didn't have to have chemo, but he did have to have radiation. It made him very sick. He got through it and is doing great.

You will get through this too. Are you so scared because your life is going so great now? Or because you have had some signs that the cancer has returned? Does your fiance know you had cancer? Are you afraid just because you didn't follow up and get checkups sooner?

I know cancer is scary, but it is very survivable today. You will get through this and be fine. But you have to see the doctors, discuss the treatments and go for the checkups when needed. You are the only one that can control your destiny. If this new Doctor's manner isn't what you need, then tell him/her that it isn't helpful. Tell the doctor what you need from him/her. If your doctor can't give you what you need, then ask for a referral to a doctor that approaches patients in the manner you need. But not before you get the pet scan. Don't get transferred in a way that causes a delay of your care.

You are going to be fine. Just take control of your health and don't leave it in anyone else's hands. Stay positive. You are a cancer survivor.
 
Nope, I am a massage therapist though :) And I do get the occasional client that's either been through something or knows someone that has been. I do not have a current cancer client but massage is something that can be very helpful especially before chemo treatments....not after. It can be very helpful with calming your nerves and giving you an overall feeling of well-being which really can help with healing. It does not by any means cure you, but being happy and relaxed is one of the best medicines for anything.

Excuse me...the massage geek ;) I really hope you do feel better. Pm me if you want to talk!
 
THIS IS FREAKY WIERD!!! I have a friend that the almost exact same thing happend to! She and her friend were in a car wreck and she got the x-ray and found cancer in her chest. I dont think it was the same kind of cancer, i dont know exactly what its called, but it affects about 4% of the world's population or something. She was doing really well and had a relapse. She dropped out of college and decided that she wasnt gonna go. She met the man of her dreams, and found the will to go back to college. I think she is going to be a dental Hygenist. But anyway, she is a strong individual... and i believe you should adapt her philosophy. She said that reguardless of the effects of cancer, all she can do is continue with life, and if it takes her, she will know that she lived to her fullest potential.

Think about what kind of time you will have to make up if you just stop at life. You can do whatever you want. Before you found out you had cancer you didnt know when you were gonna die, or you didnt think about it. Honestly what has changed? Death is still as iminent as it was before. You dont know what life has in store for you. So live like you did before, cause you could have been taken even more quickly than you feel like you can be taken now.
 
hey dogsgirl - keep on thinking about how you are going to beat this. the body and mind are a great team when they know on what to focus. there is a lot to be said about a person's mental state during the healing process, so remember the bad days are only temporary and you are working toward a new lease on life. i know from being around family going through treatments that the chemo can really take it out of you, but stay as active/involved as possible and let cancer do the worrying. you are not alone. cancers will touch everyone of us in some way. you might consider looking into a peer support group for young people going through similar circumstances. try to take advantage of any resources offered for support. you probably know lots better than i, but the cure rate for most types of hodgkins is really high so read about success stories and make plans for the future.
 
Please, do yourself a favor and beat the living shit out of that doctor (verbally, physically, w/e), cause cancer patients deserve a nice, caring person to tend to them because they are physically retarted while they are cancerous. Also, that previous boyfriend, ya, that one who ditched you, fuck him, if he couldn't wait for you, he doesn't deserve you. Now, suck it up, and show the world that you're not just another pushover.
 
My cousin had a tumor the size of a football in his stomach. The cancer had spread all over his body and into his brain.

He had chemo therapy that did not kill the cancer.

He had experimental, radical, revolutionary stem-cell surgery that saved his life.

Even when it seems like it can't get any worse DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE! My cousin is now completely cancer-free and is enjoying married life. He had a terrible case and his chances were slim. You can do it too!

It's lucky that the car accident caught your cancer before it was too late. You got a chance to save yourself!

I wish you the best of luck! You can do it!
 
No, often times cancer patients need a drill seargent as a doctor. Cancer is such a blow to the ego that many people just want to give up. Onchologists often times resort to taunting, baiting, berating or belittling you to piss you right the fuck off.

Why piss off a cancer patient? Cuz it lights a fire under them and pulls them out of that "Oh my life sucks so bad." Most of the time the docs don't have time to wait around for the patient to pull out on his or her own. So they "help" you along.

This doc did what she thought would help. This patient didn't follow through with treatment. I honestly hope that she's ok and that it wasn't an enormous mistake to walk away simply because she didn't like the doctor.

With things like cancer, ALWAYS get a second opinion. ALWAYS. ALWAYS
 
hey there all I am going to make it very short!!!!


I went to the new doctor and she has set up some new tests for me on the friday to come and I will be private messaging all of you with my thanks!

I am so honored that you guys and girls were willing to share and try to help me! Thank you again and don't forget to check your private messages for one from me!

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hey there uber! I just wanted to tell you that i did go for a second opinion and I was told that if I go and get radiation that because of the location of the mass that I would garenteed have breast cancer in 10 years! I was not into that idea so I desided to wait it out a little because it coulf have been healed by now but I am just getting back to the doctor so that I do not wait to long! I am trying to make sure that i am not hurting myself by waiting! I just wanted to make sure that if I could keep from getting breat cancer on top of this possibliy coming back! you know what I mean!


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QUESTION to EVERYONE?

if you were told to take radiation and get breast cancer in ten years to secure that 90% your other cancer would not come back would you do it?
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I'm the person that my friend is talking about. She had told me of what was going on, so I wanted to respond to let you know a_dogsgirl that you will be just fine. I had Hodgkin's Disease when I was 15 (1996). There's another kind of Hodgkins called Non-Hodgkins Disease. Non-Hodgkins Disease is more aggressive and follows a unpredictable pathway thus making it harder to cure. Both Hodgkins are malignant, but the Hodgkin's Disease is the better of the two to have if you were to have cancer (it's much easier to cure). I was in stage 3 going into stage 4 when they found it. It almost went into my liver. I was on chemo for the first two weeks of every month for six months. My hair fell out, I gained weight, & was sick two-three weeks out of the month. But here I am, doing well and going strong. You can beat this. If you would like to talk, send me a private message. Be well
 
I hope things go well for you. Its good you got cleared but there is that 5 year remission period you have to get through.

You shouldnt have stop going to checkups. Had you kept going, it would have been easier and easier I think until your last checkup in 5 years.

You are lucky to have pulled through. Good luck and best wishes.
 
I agree the doctor was insensitive, but I think the doctors mentality was "Care" for her. Sort of Tough Love. She wanted the girl to go to college and perhaps that would take some of this off of her mind or keep her busy.

I think the Doctor felt by doing this, she would spend less time thinking about what could easily have killed her.

Im really sorry for you. 18 and cancer. Lukemia is the worst. But Im hearing it is becoming one of the easier cancers to cure now where in the past it was the hardess.

Reason is, Its a blood cell cancer. Its not a tumor that can be removed. So, Maybe in 10-20 years, it will be nearly 100 curable. All forms of it. When that is the case, You wont have to worry so much about remissions.
 
Mayah -

thank you for being here i will contact you if I need anything thank you for being there for me and bitch! She is great and I am sure you are too! Thank you for being an inspiriation to me and something to strive to be!


KingGoldfish- Thank you for your concern and thyank you for caring about a youngen like me! But I will have to correct you I have Hodgekins Lymphoma not lykemia! I will be fine and that doctor was out of her mind to be so mean to some one who was dealing with the news very well on my own! I was already very happy and fighting really hard to work full-time!

thank you again!
 
King Goldfish is right, you do have a five year remission period. When I did that, my first two check ups were like every 3 months and after that they pushed the visits longer and longer to like every 6 months. Before you know it, it's been five years. Hodgkin's run mainly in women between the ages of 15 to 25 or the onset of 50. It's definately important that you do these checkups, not saying that it will come back right away...but just to be on the safe side. After this year, i'll be turning 26 and I can celebrate...the cancer stayed gone! :)
 
I am going to the doctor again the check-ups are no problem!

I am very happy for you! Hope that that means that it is gone for good and never come back!
 
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