Me and my partner of 13 years are going through a bit of a rough patch. He is very moody and critical. He bottles up all the little grievances he has against me before finally snapping at me and saying some incredibly mean and hurtful things. In between these outbursts he makes little digs at me my clothes and appearance and gives me critical looks up and down. This really erodes myself esteem and I just feel awful about myself so that when things do come to a head I feel like child who has been waiting to get hit and his words just crush me. My confidence is so undermined that I start apologizing to him for not being who he wants me to be and so I give him complete control. I feel like I have no power in the relationship because I am lucky at all to have anyone want to be with me. He earns a lot more money than me but makes a big deal out of saying he feels taken for a ride by me when I actually pay a much larger percentage of my income than him into our relationship. I just wish that he wouldn't bottle things up and instead talk to me like a reasonable human being. He even does things like refuse to pick which movie we go and see at the cinema and then sit fuming because he didn't like it. I can't figure him out.
If anyone can recommend a good book, website etc about relationships and communication we can perhaps look at / read together that would be great.
If anyone can recommend a good book, website etc about relationships and communication we can perhaps look at / read together that would be great.