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My husband and I have a toxic marriage, alot of anger and resentment.
At times when things get really overheated, to the point we get into each others faces, he would leave for days at a time. We went through this numbers of times, even went to counselling.
Some people say him leaving is good, because since our arguments get to the level that they do its better he leaves then becomes physical, but it would be ok to me if that were the only reason but he does it primarily for revenge. I support him and our two boys, 3 yrs old and 7 yrs old, and I pay all the bills because he has student loans to pay off and makes just enough to pay them every month, so if he leaves for good I'd be ok , I'm a pharmacist. But the part that bugs me is that he leaves the cell phone at home and we have no one else in town any family is either 3000 miles away or overseas and when he does this, what if something happens to one of the children, God forbid, or to me, He will
never know. Could I take him to court because this act of revenge, to me is going too far, he's not only abadoning and hurting me, he is hurting our 2 boys. Yes maybe we should get a separation or divorce, but I won't feel comfortable, him having custody of the children, as a pharmacist I work 12 hr shifts, and work 80 miles away, if we drop the children off at the babysitter at 7am, my husband works shorter shifts so he picks them up between 2 and 5 usually. But we're having one of these fights now and he called me at work, the other day, and told me he couldn't pick up the boys, so the children stayed at the sitter for 14 hours!!! Do I have enough leverage to take all rights to the children away from him in court???
At times when things get really overheated, to the point we get into each others faces, he would leave for days at a time. We went through this numbers of times, even went to counselling.
Some people say him leaving is good, because since our arguments get to the level that they do its better he leaves then becomes physical, but it would be ok to me if that were the only reason but he does it primarily for revenge. I support him and our two boys, 3 yrs old and 7 yrs old, and I pay all the bills because he has student loans to pay off and makes just enough to pay them every month, so if he leaves for good I'd be ok , I'm a pharmacist. But the part that bugs me is that he leaves the cell phone at home and we have no one else in town any family is either 3000 miles away or overseas and when he does this, what if something happens to one of the children, God forbid, or to me, He will
never know. Could I take him to court because this act of revenge, to me is going too far, he's not only abadoning and hurting me, he is hurting our 2 boys. Yes maybe we should get a separation or divorce, but I won't feel comfortable, him having custody of the children, as a pharmacist I work 12 hr shifts, and work 80 miles away, if we drop the children off at the babysitter at 7am, my husband works shorter shifts so he picks them up between 2 and 5 usually. But we're having one of these fights now and he called me at work, the other day, and told me he couldn't pick up the boys, so the children stayed at the sitter for 14 hours!!! Do I have enough leverage to take all rights to the children away from him in court???