I have no problem having sex, but it doesn’t turn me on. In a way, this could be construed as a plus since I don’t ejaculate, meaning I can go on and on. I get off from a few fetishes, but this would require the girl to be into them (it doesn’t work if she is humoring me), and meeting someone I like is a lot more important to me than meeting someone who turns me on.
I should stress that it doesn't bother me to have to "get myself off"...I know that I cannot control what turns me on and yet being sexually satisfied is not a high enough priority to be to limit my dating pool to the few females into this sort of stuff.
Basically, my question is...are some girls going to accept this? I would tend to think most wouldn't simply because so many derive their self-esteem from getting approval from a man regarding their attractiveness, etc. (guys are the same way). I'm sure some will, but from my experience, I have found that some girls are so desperate for a boyfriend that they'll put up with almost anything. However, in a way, it works...I can keep her happy sexually, my lack of interest in sex for myself would have nothing to do with her attractiveness (since I do want to date someone I find attractive, sex or not).
Since everyone asks...
1) I don't want to date girls into my fetish. I've tried in the past and while I was semi-turned on, I didn't find them particularly interesting to be with long-term.
2) I am perfectly fine with having sex with a girl to get her off...it's not that I hate sex...I just don't come from it.
Gazz - So the only reason to date is to get sex?
I should stress that it doesn't bother me to have to "get myself off"...I know that I cannot control what turns me on and yet being sexually satisfied is not a high enough priority to be to limit my dating pool to the few females into this sort of stuff.
Basically, my question is...are some girls going to accept this? I would tend to think most wouldn't simply because so many derive their self-esteem from getting approval from a man regarding their attractiveness, etc. (guys are the same way). I'm sure some will, but from my experience, I have found that some girls are so desperate for a boyfriend that they'll put up with almost anything. However, in a way, it works...I can keep her happy sexually, my lack of interest in sex for myself would have nothing to do with her attractiveness (since I do want to date someone I find attractive, sex or not).
Since everyone asks...
1) I don't want to date girls into my fetish. I've tried in the past and while I was semi-turned on, I didn't find them particularly interesting to be with long-term.
2) I am perfectly fine with having sex with a girl to get her off...it's not that I hate sex...I just don't come from it.
Gazz - So the only reason to date is to get sex?