Can anyone directly connect their problems and a childhood experience?

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Let me start off by saying I am a senior in highschool. Ever since 6th grade when boy and girls started to mix together I have been incredibly awkward around girls. It's too a point now where I rarely have a conversation with a girl at school, and have no frienRAB that are girls. Some of my frienRAB have GF's but a lot don't so it's not completely abnormal to not have these interactions.

Anyways, I know exactly what contributed to this. In preschool, my best friend was a girl. Every time I was dropped off or picked up from school I was with her, and would be ridiculed. Whether it was by my Dad or brother, possibly sister they would always laugh and tease me that I had a girlfriend, or was going to get cooties, or made fun in some way. Every time. This led to me keeping away from girls in elementary school, Growing more and more as I got to highschool. I'm not completely "socially awkward" I can keep conversations with girls and what not but can't see myself ever asking one out or whatever. Mainly I just feel like face getting hot, (which I hate) then i'm talking to one.

I am sure that this also led to my extreme modesty, I enjoy playing guitar but instantly turn it off when my parents walk by, don't talk about music with my parents, and even until recently turn off music that i was listening to on the radio or cd player when they were around. I don't know how to explain this, for what reason I felt erabarassment about it I don't know.

Just thought i'd share, lol
 
Pretty much all my problems in my adult life and recent "break down" and my now dignosis of major depression, PTSD, GAD, Agoraphobia have all stemmed from my childhood abuse.

If you can get help early in your life and deal with stuff do it. I am in my 40's now and I crashed badly. I have had with problems all my life, depression, self esteem ect. But it all came to a head a year and a half ago and now I can't seem to get back on track.
 
I know that I had parents who were worriers (they still are). They discouraged me from being independant and carefree and instilled in me that everything was dangerous and that risks shouldn't be taken. I moved out of their house with a roommate when I was 22 and they acted like it was the end of the world for me..I would end up broke, alone and with regrets.
I am sure I get a lot of my anxiety and worry from being brought up that way.
Other than that, they were good parents.
 
Hmm that's also a good point, my parents were very overprotective. They never let me partake in any activities or sports that were dangerous, no football, never let me get a SKATEBOARD, something which almost all boys have at one time or another. They took some time before letting me get a $10 plastic snowboard at KMART. I remeraber once when I was a little kid I was playing with neigrabroadors and we were playing basketball or something and the ball rolled out into the street, I ran out to get it and my dad came out of the house YELLING at me because I went into the street. I remeraber he spanked me and made me go in this walk in closet (sounRAB bad now that I think of it, maybe I chose to go in there) Anyways yes, just very overprotective. Also are always fighting about money, I hope I grow up not being so tight and being able to enjoy my life and not worry over ever penny (we are well off on top of all that)
 
same with me, my parents are always comparing me to my other siblings, i have to meet up to their expectations, my father always tells me that i am not good enough. now i am afraid to try new things and i am afraid to express myself vocally. i am taking care about my anxiety and depression with Vilift and i owe everything to it.
 
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