physically attractive.? I am 21 years older than my wife.When we married 14 yrs ago there was passion in our marriage.For several years now she has made it obvious that my advances are only welcome on rare occasions and even then it is what I would call "To fulfil a need" rather than a passionate union.It is alway me that asks her for a kiss and it is only ever a peck.Sometimes she will turn her cheek to avoid my kiss.Yet she seems to love me in every other way.She cares for me and responds to my affection but "No sex please" unless she is desperate, maybe? I love her desperately but am hurting.She says that I smother her and she feels trapped.Yet I try to be as tender and loving as possible.How do I get her back 100%.