Feminist here : ]
Before I rant. Do you think a relationship with bad sex or void of sex will last in the long run? Do you think it hurts a relationship to be blocked on the physical level of intimacy ? Do you think it does not matter? How do you think this would affect a relationship?
Now for the long rant...
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So I was just giving one of my friends advice because she says her bf is horrible in bed. He doesn't last very long, sometimes he comes within seconds of her touching him. When he does manage to hold out for a short period of time, his technique fails. I kind of wanted her to video tape so I could see what he was doing wrong. lol
I have always had relationships with guys who had good equipment and knew how to use it well and because I am such an open person about sex, I am not shy about talking about what works, what doesn't, and how I think it should work. Which brings me to her fault in the relationship. Communication is key to building on good sex and making it amazing. She doesn't communicate with him. She is very insecure about things and she doesn't like talking about sex. She tells him that some women can come so easily within seconds even and she is one of them. She tells him that he is great in bed but then calls me up to rant. She says that she loves him and there are more important things. Sex is not important to her, and she wants to marry him. She is also worried about making him feel bad and making him angry.
Umm...yeah. I disagree. lol I think love is great. I love my bf more than words can describe but sex is important. Sex is an expresion of love on a physical level, it can be spiritual and connect two people(or more whatever floats your boat) on the most basic primal level that we often forget as civilized people...and most importantly there is coming involved!!!!! Even if I was with a guy who sucked in bed, I would train him and COMMUNICATE with him. That's the only way to help your situation and I think she would be so much happier if she just stopped being so uptight and talked to him.
I think lack of sex - good sex -hinders a relationship somewhere down the line and can manifest in resentment.
So what do you all think?
Before I rant. Do you think a relationship with bad sex or void of sex will last in the long run? Do you think it hurts a relationship to be blocked on the physical level of intimacy ? Do you think it does not matter? How do you think this would affect a relationship?
Now for the long rant...
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So I was just giving one of my friends advice because she says her bf is horrible in bed. He doesn't last very long, sometimes he comes within seconds of her touching him. When he does manage to hold out for a short period of time, his technique fails. I kind of wanted her to video tape so I could see what he was doing wrong. lol
I have always had relationships with guys who had good equipment and knew how to use it well and because I am such an open person about sex, I am not shy about talking about what works, what doesn't, and how I think it should work. Which brings me to her fault in the relationship. Communication is key to building on good sex and making it amazing. She doesn't communicate with him. She is very insecure about things and she doesn't like talking about sex. She tells him that some women can come so easily within seconds even and she is one of them. She tells him that he is great in bed but then calls me up to rant. She says that she loves him and there are more important things. Sex is not important to her, and she wants to marry him. She is also worried about making him feel bad and making him angry.
Umm...yeah. I disagree. lol I think love is great. I love my bf more than words can describe but sex is important. Sex is an expresion of love on a physical level, it can be spiritual and connect two people(or more whatever floats your boat) on the most basic primal level that we often forget as civilized people...and most importantly there is coming involved!!!!! Even if I was with a guy who sucked in bed, I would train him and COMMUNICATE with him. That's the only way to help your situation and I think she would be so much happier if she just stopped being so uptight and talked to him.
I think lack of sex - good sex -hinders a relationship somewhere down the line and can manifest in resentment.
So what do you all think?