Calling all moms and their 13 year old boys! Please help solve our debate.?

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Bailey

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My son just turned 13 and gaining his independence which I do respect. However like I was raised and many before me my mom would always come in and tuck us kids in one last time before she went to bed. I do the same for my boys. I will go tip toe in and put the blankets back on that always seem to fall off and just check my boys to make sure their safe one last time before i go to bed.

My 13 year old says I'm crazy for doing that and that no other moms do that and that I'm the ONLY one.

Please give me your experience thanks! He's making me feel like I'm this horrible mother for doing that when I'm not. I love those boys with all my heart and I never want anything to happen to them
 
I'm a mom and I wouldn't do that past age 10 or so, if then. 13 is too old. I have to agree with your son. Tell him goodnight when he goes to bed and leave it at that.
 
Give him space. He doesn't want you being a smothering mother around him (not that you are). To him getting tucked in is for kids and he isn't a kid anymore.

Two above reminded me. DEFINITELY KNOCK BEFORE ENTERING! Always. He doesn't want you busting in randomly at night when he's thinking about girls.
 
Im 17 and when i come back home from college my mom still does that to me cuz she loves me, dont worry he just wants a little more space but.... I really dont want to say this 13 is usually the time when little boys experiment in the dark
 
You are not a horrible mother. You just happen to be a more loving, demonstrative mother than most. I think it's sweet. I'm also not a 13 yr old boy striving for independence and maturity.

I can see his point, and yours too.

As for me and mine, my son is 12, and I've just finally stopped tucking him in at night a few months ago. I'm not sure how or why the pattern stopped, but that stage of our lives seems to be over.

As for going back in there for a retuck, I've never done that. Hmm, I might have when he was a baby, can't remember. But not since then.

Again, not crazy, just alittle more devoted than most.
 
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