My boyfriend & I started dating when we were 17 - we're both 24 now. We moved in together shortly after our college graduation & have lived together for 2&1/2 yrs. In the beg. of our relationship, we took things slowly and after about a year or so, when we finally started to become intimate, we had sex everyday. Now, since we moved in with each other, our sex life is progressively becoming worse to the point where its like once a month.
Besides that aspect, our entire relationship has changed, for the worse - we are constantly getting into arguments over stupid things (even our friends chuckle & say we sound like an old married couple). I have tried to communicate these issues to him and he continues to say he loves me, etc...In addition, due to economic conditions, both of us work two jobs (approximately the same amount of hours) and he tells me all the time that he's tired however, I work two jobs too & take care of the entire household (w/out help from him) while trying to study for law school. Despite all of this, I still want to spend time with him and to be intimate with him but he is the complete opposite and will get home and go to sleep.
I have rationally tried discussing this numerous times with him, with the end result in an argument because I just get so upset over the topic and all I get is "I still love you, but I'm tired" and no other response. Moreover, we have tried other things in bed and he has recently bought toys so he can use them on me, but it turns out I use them more on myself than anything - which is def. not my desire or what I want. At this juncture, I just feel that he's not into me anymore and doesn't find me attractive. There are some days we go without kissing and I will dress up and try, but he never tells me I look good or that I'm beautiful, like he once did. Also, I trust him completely and firmly believe that he would never cheat on me but since my confidence has taken a hit, I just don't know anymore.
It has gotten to the point where we just feel like roommates now and not lovers and I as mentioned, I am so hurt by this lack of interest which caused a complete blow to my self-esteem. Where I should feel comfortable around him, I now only feel uneasy and self-conscious of my appearance and behaviors.
This is a man that I once wanted to marry and could not wait until we reached this age and maturity in our lives so we could finally start a life together -- I don't want to lose him but I also don't want to make the mistake of my life. Please advise!
Besides that aspect, our entire relationship has changed, for the worse - we are constantly getting into arguments over stupid things (even our friends chuckle & say we sound like an old married couple). I have tried to communicate these issues to him and he continues to say he loves me, etc...In addition, due to economic conditions, both of us work two jobs (approximately the same amount of hours) and he tells me all the time that he's tired however, I work two jobs too & take care of the entire household (w/out help from him) while trying to study for law school. Despite all of this, I still want to spend time with him and to be intimate with him but he is the complete opposite and will get home and go to sleep.
I have rationally tried discussing this numerous times with him, with the end result in an argument because I just get so upset over the topic and all I get is "I still love you, but I'm tired" and no other response. Moreover, we have tried other things in bed and he has recently bought toys so he can use them on me, but it turns out I use them more on myself than anything - which is def. not my desire or what I want. At this juncture, I just feel that he's not into me anymore and doesn't find me attractive. There are some days we go without kissing and I will dress up and try, but he never tells me I look good or that I'm beautiful, like he once did. Also, I trust him completely and firmly believe that he would never cheat on me but since my confidence has taken a hit, I just don't know anymore.
It has gotten to the point where we just feel like roommates now and not lovers and I as mentioned, I am so hurt by this lack of interest which caused a complete blow to my self-esteem. Where I should feel comfortable around him, I now only feel uneasy and self-conscious of my appearance and behaviors.
This is a man that I once wanted to marry and could not wait until we reached this age and maturity in our lives so we could finally start a life together -- I don't want to lose him but I also don't want to make the mistake of my life. Please advise!