Veronica Rodgers
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First off I dont want answers that say "leave him" or "he's secretly gay". This is not a deal breaker for me but it is an issue. My bf is 28. I met him almost 3 years ago. In the beginning we had sex pretty much only when he was drunk but he was drunk most of the time haha. He gradually stopped drinking and over the past 2 years the sex has come down to once a month...if that. In the beginning his response was he was too focused on school. After he graduated it was that he was focused on finding a job. After that it was that his legs were in constant pain and work has him stressed. I know for a fact he's not cheating on me and he doesnt have time to watch porn. The only thing he could possible be doing is jerking off in the shower haha. He has told me he is fine with the way our relationship is and I've given up trying to initiate. I've been turned down one too many times. I can handle not having sex...I can do just as good myself. I have come to the conclusion that he is not getting anything becuase when he is in the mood all he wants is a bj and I get nothing. So I am now content going to bed turning my back and if he wants sex fine if not I'm not going to lose sleep over it. I've tried everything from talking to him about it to buying expensive lingerie (a complete waste) and nothing. So my last resort is....will my lack of interest peak his. Will the thought of me never giving him a bj again bring back any type of desire? Like I said I've come to "peace within myself" about the situation but I still want his desire to come back at some point.....thoughts?
Melissa i feel like you've hit it on the money. Guys I'm not ugly. I'm not a model but I keep in shape, I have implants and I am the spokesmodel for some local television commercials lol (big city too). I think I just needed to hear it from someone else that might be in the same situation. If he werent satisfied with me then he'd def be looking for it somewhere else right? if he didnt want to break up with me but still needed sex I would expect cheating which isnt going on.
Melissa i feel like you've hit it on the money. Guys I'm not ugly. I'm not a model but I keep in shape, I have implants and I am the spokesmodel for some local television commercials lol (big city too). I think I just needed to hear it from someone else that might be in the same situation. If he werent satisfied with me then he'd def be looking for it somewhere else right? if he didnt want to break up with me but still needed sex I would expect cheating which isnt going on.