A couple of days ago, my boyfriend admitted to me that he has a fear of sex. He said that he loves porn, love to talk about sex, loves cybering (which I'm apparently bad at), but when it actually comes to having it with another person, he freaks out.
I'm not going to lie, this kind of shocked me. He has always seemed so...willing, I guess would be the right word. He always talks about how he wants me to fuck him and that he wants to give me a blowjob.
He says that this fear comes from being abused as a child, which I already knew about and he goes to therapy for it and whatnot.
I'm a very sexual person, so I'll admit I'm kind of disappointed - but I understand and I don't want to push him to do something that he's freaked out by.
I was under the assumption that he wasn't a virgin because of how much he talked about sex, but I had never asked.
This fear kind of came as a surprise and he never mentioned it before now.
I don't know what to do about it.
I'm not going to lie, this kind of shocked me. He has always seemed so...willing, I guess would be the right word. He always talks about how he wants me to fuck him and that he wants to give me a blowjob.
He says that this fear comes from being abused as a child, which I already knew about and he goes to therapy for it and whatnot.
I'm a very sexual person, so I'll admit I'm kind of disappointed - but I understand and I don't want to push him to do something that he's freaked out by.
I was under the assumption that he wasn't a virgin because of how much he talked about sex, but I had never asked.
This fear kind of came as a surprise and he never mentioned it before now.
I don't know what to do about it.