Boyfriend gets mad with intimacy sometimes?

[Questions]

Please tell us your ages; that would help.

My opinion--get away from this guy. He has anger issues. Even if you aren't worried about emotional (perhaps verbal, also) abuse, think about the lousy sex. He's being very selfish, ending it like that. You know what he's doing, don't you? It's almost like he's masturbating with your body. Maybe you left out the part where he is a very good lover.

It's better to have no relationship that one with someone who is abusive. I hope you will read up on abuse. Check out Dr. Irene online and pick up some books on abuse. There is a lot of information for teens on dating and abuse, if that is your age category.

You're afraid to bring up certain topics because your boyfriend gets angry. You should not even have to think about that when you speak. His anger is inside of him and has nothing to do with what you say or do, although he will lead you to believe it has everything to do with you.

Who cares if he pulls out or not at this point? You have much more serious issues to think about.

This is not common or healthy.

 

[Aliz]

My boyfriend and I have recently started having sex without a condom. I'm on birth control and have been for a while. Sometimes we still use a condom too. Sometimes while we're going at it without a condom, he can pull out and "let" loose in a towel or something, but other times, he gets all irritated and says he's good without finishing off. I know he wants to, but (I asked him if he's afraid of the pull-out method) he says he's scared I'm gonna get pregnant (he says this in a rude voice and acts like it's stupid I even asked).

We've talked about what we would do if I did end up getting pregnant, we both agree on it. On the times he gets irritated, he acts like it's my fault and gets mad and annoyed with me afterward. I offer to finish him off myself, but he even refuses that, saying he's fine.

My boyfriend is someone who is prone to getting angry easily, so I don't try to push topics he's sensitive about. What can I say to spark a conversation about this, to get him to be more open with me, and without sparking his anger? Again, sometimes he has no problem pulling out, other times he gets mad and doesn't finish. I am so confused, but he doesn't like to be open with me about sexual things. Also, is this common, or not so much?

Please help, advice is very much appreciated!
He's 20, I'm 19

 

[Questions]

Please tell us your ages; that would help.

My opinion--get away from this guy. He has anger issues. Even if you aren't worried about emotional (perhaps verbal, also) abuse, think about the lousy sex. He's being very selfish, ending it like that. You know what he's doing, don't you? It's almost like he's masturbating with your body. Maybe you left out the part where he is a very good lover.

It's better to have no relationship that one with someone who is abusive. I hope you will read up on abuse. Check out Dr. Irene online and pick up some books on abuse. There is a lot of information for teens on dating and abuse, if that is your age category.

You're afraid to bring up certain topics because your boyfriend gets angry. You should not even have to think about that when you speak. His anger is inside of him and has nothing to do with what you say or do, although he will lead you to believe it has everything to do with you.

Who cares if he pulls out or not at this point? You have much more serious issues to think about.

This is not common or healthy.