poodlepop11
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Well, im having a lot of trouble making a decision and i dont really have anyone else i can ask so i need advice, but before i tell you the decision i have to make you need in formation first.
So,im 24 and my boyfriend is 25. i was with my boyfriend for nearly 3 and a half years, then things went bad after about 2 years and i broke up with im 5 months ago, we have been living together still ever since the break up just as friends, because we are still like best friends and broke up on good terms, its getting time to move out of the house we share now, and im moving in about 10 days into a house that i'll be boarding in. so anyway on Saturday my ex said he wanted to talk to me and and long story short he said he has had a lot of time to evaluate things and take a step back to look at how we got into the situation that we did and has come to realize that the things that caused problems can be corrected on both our parts and that he wants to get back with me, i feel exactly the same way iv looked at things too and now know exactly what went wrong and they can be fixed. so we are now back together. the problem im having is im moving out and so will he but he does not have anywhere to go and he has not really got the money to move, so i was thinking we will just move to this new house together, he wants to keep living with me, but the thing is, i have an anxiety disorder and have since i met him, and he has supported me and helped me through it so i could get better, i was doing well, but for a long time i was really dependant on him to take me places and stuff, but towards the end he backed off because things were really bad between us. he said to me that he knows i still have a long way to go and he wants to help me again to get over it and i know he will. but my dad has said he really doesn't think its a good idea for us to live together because i need my space and time to become my own person and establish myself to become independent and stand on my own two feet, and i sort of agree with him because we are going to start from scratch, like dating and stuff again. but its nearly coming up for our 4th anniversary so we have known and been together for a long time.
we all went to a cafe today and had coffee to talk about this together, me, my dad and my boyfriend, just so instead of me telling my boyfriend what my dad thinks and tell my dad what my boyfriend thinks, they can hear it from the horses mouth, we had a very civilized discussion and now im more confused then ever because i am really close to my dad and take everything he says on Bord and know he is looking out for my best interest and hes usually right, but i am also in love with my boyfriend and i cant stand the thought of being away from him. so if i dont let my boyfriend move in with me i will feel bad and worry because he has nowhere to go and will end up in a caravan park or something and i dont want that, but if i do let him move in with me, i know my dad will be disappointed and will think its holding me back and my dad might be right! my dad will still support me no matter what i do and my boyfriend still wants to be with me no matter what the outcome, so im caught between a rock and a hard place, i feel like i have to choose, my dad or my boyfriend. please help, advice is appreciated!
Please dont, tell me to do want i want, that is odbivous. i just need your opinion on what will be the best thing for me, and what you would do yourself or what you would think if it was your daughter. thanks
So,im 24 and my boyfriend is 25. i was with my boyfriend for nearly 3 and a half years, then things went bad after about 2 years and i broke up with im 5 months ago, we have been living together still ever since the break up just as friends, because we are still like best friends and broke up on good terms, its getting time to move out of the house we share now, and im moving in about 10 days into a house that i'll be boarding in. so anyway on Saturday my ex said he wanted to talk to me and and long story short he said he has had a lot of time to evaluate things and take a step back to look at how we got into the situation that we did and has come to realize that the things that caused problems can be corrected on both our parts and that he wants to get back with me, i feel exactly the same way iv looked at things too and now know exactly what went wrong and they can be fixed. so we are now back together. the problem im having is im moving out and so will he but he does not have anywhere to go and he has not really got the money to move, so i was thinking we will just move to this new house together, he wants to keep living with me, but the thing is, i have an anxiety disorder and have since i met him, and he has supported me and helped me through it so i could get better, i was doing well, but for a long time i was really dependant on him to take me places and stuff, but towards the end he backed off because things were really bad between us. he said to me that he knows i still have a long way to go and he wants to help me again to get over it and i know he will. but my dad has said he really doesn't think its a good idea for us to live together because i need my space and time to become my own person and establish myself to become independent and stand on my own two feet, and i sort of agree with him because we are going to start from scratch, like dating and stuff again. but its nearly coming up for our 4th anniversary so we have known and been together for a long time.
we all went to a cafe today and had coffee to talk about this together, me, my dad and my boyfriend, just so instead of me telling my boyfriend what my dad thinks and tell my dad what my boyfriend thinks, they can hear it from the horses mouth, we had a very civilized discussion and now im more confused then ever because i am really close to my dad and take everything he says on Bord and know he is looking out for my best interest and hes usually right, but i am also in love with my boyfriend and i cant stand the thought of being away from him. so if i dont let my boyfriend move in with me i will feel bad and worry because he has nowhere to go and will end up in a caravan park or something and i dont want that, but if i do let him move in with me, i know my dad will be disappointed and will think its holding me back and my dad might be right! my dad will still support me no matter what i do and my boyfriend still wants to be with me no matter what the outcome, so im caught between a rock and a hard place, i feel like i have to choose, my dad or my boyfriend. please help, advice is appreciated!
Please dont, tell me to do want i want, that is odbivous. i just need your opinion on what will be the best thing for me, and what you would do yourself or what you would think if it was your daughter. thanks