I found a solution to this - on the computer/laptop, in XP go to either My Computer or My Network places, then My Bluetooth places, then pick on the left "find devices in range". Once your PDA shows up, don't close that window, make sure the little hotsync icon is up in the lower righthand system tray, and run the hotsync - it should work.
I can't believe how much time spent on this, and then finding such a simple solution, I wanted to share, even though it's an old forum it shows up when you google the problem.
