hpfreak080
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I am a 19 year old girl who was adopted at birth through a closed adoption process (i don't really know any of the details about the process beyond that...sorry).
I was raised referring to my biological mother as my "birthmother" which I didn't even know was controversial before seeing some questions and responses on Yahoo Answers.
I guess this isn't much of a question, but I do want to let natural mothers out there know that some adoptive parents are incredibly thankful and appreciative of the natural mother/birthmother and speak about her only with respect and dignity.
I know I have a great deal of respect for mine (I do not know her personally) for giving me a wonderful life and wonderful people to raise me. When I use the term "birthmother," I do not mean it in a derogatory way or as an insult, I mean it to refer to the woman in the world who gave birth to me naturally and loved me enough to give me up because she could not care for me properly (possibly).
***BOTTOM LINE***
I just wonder why the term birthmother is so controversial because I've never in my life meant it negatively...
Also, the term natural mother in my opinion is completely correct and fine too...I just don't see the need for a debate.
I also want to reassure all of you natural mothers out there that your natural children do think about you and love you AND respect you no matter what they refer to you as =)
I was raised referring to my biological mother as my "birthmother" which I didn't even know was controversial before seeing some questions and responses on Yahoo Answers.
I guess this isn't much of a question, but I do want to let natural mothers out there know that some adoptive parents are incredibly thankful and appreciative of the natural mother/birthmother and speak about her only with respect and dignity.
I know I have a great deal of respect for mine (I do not know her personally) for giving me a wonderful life and wonderful people to raise me. When I use the term "birthmother," I do not mean it in a derogatory way or as an insult, I mean it to refer to the woman in the world who gave birth to me naturally and loved me enough to give me up because she could not care for me properly (possibly).
***BOTTOM LINE***
I just wonder why the term birthmother is so controversial because I've never in my life meant it negatively...
Also, the term natural mother in my opinion is completely correct and fine too...I just don't see the need for a debate.
I also want to reassure all of you natural mothers out there that your natural children do think about you and love you AND respect you no matter what they refer to you as =)