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Tedi Tabytha

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I'm tired of this.

I don't want to go to church. I don't want to do profession of faith. I don't have any faith to profess. My parents are looking foward to me doing profession of faith. But I don't want to. But I can't tell them that because I'm too much of a goddamn pussy and don't want to make them upset with me, which is bound to happen anyway, because I always seem to end up hurting those I care about.

I told my sister I haven't been to church in a while, and she started bitching at me because of it. Then she invited me to her place for supper. She asked me why I didn't go to church on Sunday, and I said it was becuase I had a headache, but I went to her place for supper anyway. I didn't have a headache, yet I took 2 tylenols to make her think that that's the real reason why I stayed home.

Whenever people ask me why I wasn't in church on Sunday, my answer is "I didn't feel well." Because I can't tell them the real reason, because I don't like making people upset with me. I've done that too many times before. I'm living a lie. I'm not the person my parents tried to make me, although they still believe that I am. Because I can't tell them the truth because I'm a pussy.
 
I usually don't tell people this in this part of the forum, but yeah, you REALLY do need to stop being a pussy. Stand up for what YOU believe in, if your parents and sister can't accept you for who you make yourself to be, then they were never your true family in the first place. One small lie always leads to either more smaller lies, or acouple of bigger lies. There is no point in dancing around the fact that you don't want the future that your family has mapped out for you, and you need to tell them what YOU want to do. I hate to say this, but if the ones you love can't accept it, then :mfinger: them.

I know you won't do that though, because you seem to be the shy guy. I swear, if you stop wasting your time on this earth trying to please everyone else, then you just may end up where YOU want to some day.

Hope it turns out for the best man. :thumbsup:
 
I'd love to give you practical advice since it sounds much like what I had to go through, but for me to do that, I need a basic outline of what your religious beliefs are and how they differ from that of your family. I thought I say you say that you were a Christian of another sort, but I'm not sure. My memory blows. :happysad:
 
My parents are what many people would deem Christian Fundamentalists. The type of people who go to church every sunday, look down on swearing, sex before marriage, 2 people living together before marriage, etc etc. They hold the bible as the ultimate truth, they pray a lot, and they figure that if you don't go to church, you can't be a christian.

I believe that you can be a christian and not go to church. Nowhere in the bible does it say "thou shalt go to church every sunday." I view the bible as a set of morals and guidelines. I have no problem with a guy and a girl living together before they get married. I believe that god is there, somewhere, although lately I've been doubting even that. I don't know.

I don't know anything anymore.
 
You sound like a very confused guy, Unfa, and maybe religion just isn't gonna help you. If Christianity isn't your thing, then don't do it.

Just like Yesrod said, you can't please everybody all of the time, especially since you have the (no pun intended) God-given right to live your life in the manner you choose. People can only control you if you let them, so show a little backbone and REFUSE every once in a while.
 
Well, there's good news and then there's bad news. The good news is that you're not an atheist (yet). The bad news? You're screwed. I only have to live with one fundy. You live with an entire family of them and the good news is the only thing that's going to save your ass.

So unless you're prepared to move out, don't tell them anything unless you're forced to. You need to research sects of Christianity and find one that most closely resembles what you believe and join them. The idea is to ease your family into the idea that your concept of faith differs from theirs and work from there. There's a verse in the New Testament where Jesus says to pray in private. Exploit it.

Don't let them know your doubts. If down the road you decide to ally yourself with my side of the universe, you can work from there and I then I could really help you with actual, hard earned experience. But in the mean time, I'm trying to save you from an ugly battle. I hate having to tell you anything other than something from what Yesrod says because I normally believe the same thing, but with people you're in for an ugly, long term war with some members of your family. If you're ready to move out, then by all means do so and then take the ugly way. But chances are that you're not and I'd hate to be the one gives advice that triggers a worst case scenario.
 
Ah. In that case, you can either take the ugly way or the easing in approach. Ultimately, it's your choice but either way, it doesn't look like church trips are in order until your own faith dictates it.
 
So...what you're trying to say is: I am currently not living with my parents but am still hiding my own religious, social, and personal views to myself.

WHAT THE FUCK!?!?

Grow a pair Unfa. This is non-sense. It's not like they are going to spank you for not going to church. Next time they ask just tell them: "I don't want to go to church...I don't have faith".

A statement like that would ultimately lead them to believe you shouldn't go to church. You would be the definition of blasphemy going to a Church of God with no faith. Ironic?
 
He never said he didn't have the faith, he just doesn't think that organized religion is the way to show your faith to god. His parents are trying to force him into going to church.

I still think you should let them know. As I said before you can't get anywhere if you have monkeys on your back weighing you down.
 
damn dude....i know what its like to deal with oarents and church..i dont really like church but my mom makes me go anyway....it drives me insane. and um....wouldnt takeing tyenols when u have no reason to make u like, sick or something?....eh any way, it really matters that much to u if u hurt ur parents? i mean, i dont want to hurt my mom....but refuseing to go to church or professing faith or whatever wouldnt hurt them that much....would it? i dont think it would mine....but i dont know ur parents....listen, just tell them that, "i dont want to do this...i have better things to do with my life...i dont want to disapoint u, but i dont want to tourture myself by wasteing my time with this either. i love u but, plz dont make me do this...."

...hope i helped....i dont know ur parents like u do...so that may not help....i just hope i helped in some way...:happysad:
 
Well, here's my opinion on the whole thing. If you don't feel like going to church, then don't. It's not like god or whoever is going to smite you down because you skipped a few Sundays. This, of course, is coming from someone who is an athiest. But anyway, if you don't feel like you're up to church, then maybe it isn't right for you.

And vicarious13? I have a quick suggestion, not meant to be offensive or anything: Please start using proper punctuation. You'll find that life is much easier when you master it.
 
well SRRRRRRY if i'm 14 and dont really find it nessasary to bother useing "proper punctuation". i get enough of that shit from school. besides, u can still read it cant u? :rolleyes:
 
Yes, actually. You have to 'bother' using proper grammar, spelling, and punctuation. It is a rule. You is not spelled u. Sorry has an o. Proofreading is your friend. :thumbsup:
 
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