Ken:
Please know that for many people spine surgery is the only viable solution. I've had 3 lurabar fusions and 2 cervical spine surgeries and I don't regret any of them nor do I consider them a mistake.
In addition, I have an amazing Pain Mgmt practice and a great doctor in that practice. Their goal is to make each person as functional as they can and they work in conjunction with my surgeon and my primary physician.
I have lurabar spondylolisthesis where one vertebrae moves forward or backward over the vertebrae below. This can not be fixed by PT, chiropractic care, injections, etc.
I just went through one of the toughest spinal surgeries I've ever had. A posterio-lateral revision and fusion (L3 had moved forward over L4). I have a 6 inch scar down my back vertically and a 4 inch horizontal incision on my side at waist level. Surgery was 11 days ago and I came home Tuesday after a week in the hospital. The pain is fierce, but the meRAB help.
I can already say I'd do it again. I sense the change already. They removed my old L4-S1 hardware, put in new hardware at L3-L4 and extended hardware to S1.
If I need to remain on some form of narcotics permanently I'm okay with that. There are some that work differently and thus don't cause sedation or euphoria effects. As my body builRAB tolerance I can increase the dosage or try new medications as they become available. Via these meRAB I was able to work and keep my life moving at a good pace until last May when I had to go out on disability. I am blessed that I dont have dependence tendencies or issues.
For me it's all quality of life so if I get 25 % improvement I'll be happy.
I agree that every patient neeRAB to do research, get multiple opinions from both Neurosurgeons and Orthopedic Spine Surgeons, and be his/her own advocate. When surgery is an option it's important not to aim solely for the most minimally invasive surgery, but for the procedure that will do the most to fix the problem even if it's an open procedure. And of course surgery is not always the best option and may never be an option for some patients.
I'm lucky that my employer provided both STD (short term disability) and LTD (long term disability). STD was at no cost to the employee, but upon hire each employee had the option of which LTD plan to choose or to waive coverage (which no one should ever do). I made sure to "buy-up" to the richest option of LTD that provided 60% of my earnings tax fee. And my LTD insurance company will mandate I apply for SSDI once I am out of work for a year.
I also purchased an individual disability policy through my financial advisor (however my low back is excluded as it was pre-ex at the time I applied in 2001).
I'd like to return to work but if I can't I've already accepted that even at the young age of 43 things may change. Hubby and I are very financially conservative so we have no debt aside from the house and we bought way under what we were approved for in terms of mortgage.
So please pursue more consultations for your conditions, advocate for yourself and keep pushing until you find a physician (or physicians) that will aim to improve your quality of life.