I have recently become involved with a very old friend. We've always had a bit of a mutual crush, but were usually involved with someone else and never had the opportunity to see if things would work out.
She has a young child from her previous, long-term, relationship with a guy who treated her very badly and then left her for another woman when she was in the early stages of pregnancy. Even now, the baby's father does not seem interested in a relationship with his child, but still calls, texts and likes to hang out with his ex, my new girlfriend, and she says that she'd like to be friends with him as they have so much history.
This confuses me, obviously. He doesn't want a real relationship with his child, treated my girlfriend badly when they were together, and only calls and wants to hang out when he and his current partner argue.
My girlfriend and I are talking about moving in together very soon, but she somehow expects me to be cool about him coming round and watching movies with us. I'm not, and don't think that I ever would be.
Am I being an immature a**h***? I just don't understand why she'd want to be friends with a guy like that just because they were together for years, especially when he's not interested in their child. I'm more than happy to take on the role of father figure if he doesn't want it, and love my girlfriend very much, but I can only see arguments on the horizon about her friendship with this guy.
Any advice?
She has a young child from her previous, long-term, relationship with a guy who treated her very badly and then left her for another woman when she was in the early stages of pregnancy. Even now, the baby's father does not seem interested in a relationship with his child, but still calls, texts and likes to hang out with his ex, my new girlfriend, and she says that she'd like to be friends with him as they have so much history.
This confuses me, obviously. He doesn't want a real relationship with his child, treated my girlfriend badly when they were together, and only calls and wants to hang out when he and his current partner argue.
My girlfriend and I are talking about moving in together very soon, but she somehow expects me to be cool about him coming round and watching movies with us. I'm not, and don't think that I ever would be.
Am I being an immature a**h***? I just don't understand why she'd want to be friends with a guy like that just because they were together for years, especially when he's not interested in their child. I'm more than happy to take on the role of father figure if he doesn't want it, and love my girlfriend very much, but I can only see arguments on the horizon about her friendship with this guy.
Any advice?