As mother of groom should I attend shower thrown by brides friends?

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Need to know correct ettiquette here. I am mother of groom and am hosting a couples wedding shower. Now the bride has invited me along on a shower that her friends at her work are throwing for her. I will not know anyone and prefer to not go, but dont want to offend her or her mother. I have told her that I would feel like I am intruding, but she said that was nonsense. What is correct in this instance?

Also If i do go, do i need to take a gift as we have already given the kids their gift from us?
 
I would think that since you have been invited by the bride that you should go. You dont want to offend her by not attending the shower. Also, I dont see why you would take a gift since you have already given them their gift. Sounds like she just wants you there for support. Have fun!
 
I was the mother of the groom. Yes, you should go.

I would find a gift to take. It need not be expensive. I'm sure you could find something to take.

You are lucky, sounds like she want you included.
 
I would think that since you have been invited by the bride that you should go. You dont want to offend her by not attending the shower. Also, I dont see why you would take a gift since you have already given them their gift. Sounds like she just wants you there for support. Have fun!
 
my mother in law actually is planning my bridal shower along with my mom and my bridesmaids! your a part of the wedding a big part! yea def go! and as far as a gift? bring soemthing small off their regisry... or even give like 50$ maybe even like a gift card to their favorite place to eat. anything small. but def go!
 
Yes go! You would be offending them. Your son is getting married and uniting the two families as one. Go! Have a good time! Take every opportunity to be with your new daughter in law! Don't worry about a gift. She'll understand. But do go! Participat in as many events as you can. You won't be intruding. You'll be expected to be there. The mother of the bride will be expected to be at most of the events too, except the bachelor party of course. haha Go!!!!!
 
you can politely decline the invitation. you would have to bring a gift if you went. but since it's her coworkers, I don't know why they're inviting you. it's a nice gesture but I don't think they expect you to come. since you're throwing a shower yourself they probably won't hold it against you if you don't go. like you said, you won't know anyone there. that's the main reason I decline shower invitations, because they're EXTREMELY boring especially baby showers, and because I may not know a lot of the bride's friends.
 
Yes you should go. It doesn't matter who you know because you are there for your future daughter-in-law. Who knows, you may come away with some more friends. You don't have to take a gift but maybe you could help with the decorations, cake, serving etc. Go and have a good time. Your future daughter-in-law would be upset if you didn't especially if she invited you.
 
I would go just for a little while.As for the gift,you allready gave them one so no need to take another.
 
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