Arguing again... Who's in the wrong?

[Sal]

I dont usually wonder who's to blame when it comes to marriages, because I am a strong believer that it takes two to tango. However, on this occassion I am going to ask you all who you think is to blame. My husband and I always argue, we both hate it and it is really affecting our marriage. Sometimes it brings us closer and sometimes it pushes us away. We have talked about the problem and made millions of promises to each other to try and change things, but one way or another it comes back round to this. Todays argument has really fustrated us and now we are both sitting on two sides of the bed in silence. I went to make tea today and asked him what he would like to eat. He made a joke about me eating more than him the other day. I'm a little insecure about my weight and I got upset by his comment and walked out. I know he was joking and I later came back and apologised. However, he is now upset with me because he thinks I get upset over everything. I tried to explain to him that it was my insecurities about my weight and I didnt like it, but he failed to understand that. I understand that he was only joking, but he doesnt understand me. All I want is for him to understand why I got upset. He, however, thinks that I dont understand that it was a joke. We seemed to go round in circles, until he got angrier and angrier and started to shout in my face. I got upset and I left it at that.