Are you gay if fantasy about gay sex but you don't actually want to have gay sex?

A

Alexander

New member
What I mean is sometimes you fantasy about gay sexual stuff like tyrannies and Jrock sexiness. Of course you know their guys and what not but you know you wouldn't go as far as trying to hook up. To you does that make a person gay or do you know what the definition of fantasies who wont go all the way to full fill his fantasies.
Gwenie b I agree in some ways thats the way I feel about my fantasies is the consequences are what keep me back. I really would like to act them out but I don't wanna bear the consequences. At the same time I can honestly say I have no desire to do it. Its weird because in both areas I feel the same Im just as much commited to not doing them as well as having a strong sexual desire to. Its really a matter if I'm horny or not. When im not I have no desire but when I fantisize I do. Yet I would definitly say both positions I have are genuine.
 
It’s a peculiar thing to try and discuss with so much emotion involved, but I knew that I was different to other boys from the time I was around 5 years. Paulo was around 12 years when he came out to his parents and he told me he always liked to play with his girl friends when he was little.
There is a sliding scale of sexual orientation from “Straight” through “Bi” and finishing with “Gay” and most people are somewhere on the scale.
Everyone is different, you may be “Straight” or you may be “Bi” with a preference for one or the other or a degree of equal attraction to both. You may be “Gay” with no tendencies towards the opposite sex at all.
You then have the transgender position where some one believes they are in the wrong body and will want to dress and act the opposite to their physical gender. Whether they are “Gay” or “Straight” is irrelevant to them as they “feel” the way that they feel and they can feel trapped in their own bodies.
So no single answer will suffice to define your sexuality and it will be a subjective answer that only you can decide.
One thing is certain – everybody deserves our respect for who they are!
P&P :-)
 
Fantasies are just that- fantasies. Otherwise, they'd be called "plans for Friday night".

If you don't want to sleep with men in real life, then no, you're not gay/bisexual. We all have things we like in our fantasies that we don't want to make real.

Now, if your answer to the questions "If you could have sex with a man and never have anybody know about it, no repercussions whatsoever, would you do it and do you think you could enjoy it?" are "Yes and yes.", then you might very well be gay/bisexual, and the only thing keeping you from following through would be the consequences of doing so.
 
Back
Top