Most people seem to think it's NEVER okay, but is this a situation where the "rules" can be bent?
I was in a long-term relationship with a guy for four years. He consistently lied to me throughout our relationship and generally treated me like crap. His friend (not best friend) witnessed this and was angered to the point he started losing respect for him as a friend. The friend developed feelings for me and hated seeing me get treated that way, but would never interfere in our relationship. I never cheated on my ex or had anything going on with his friend while we were together. I tried breaking up with him multiple times and even had suicide threatened on me to emotionally manipulate me and keep me around.
I finally broke it off and started getting very close with his friend within a month after breaking up as he was going through a tragedy of his own. Me and my now current boyfriend were honest with my ex about our intentions as soon as we started to sense that anything more could come of it. My ex was able to forgive me because of the things he put me through, but not my boyfriend.
Me and my current bf are still together after over a year and are absolute soul mates and in love. We have not engaged in sexual relations either, so it's not like that. We are seriously considering marriage in the next few years. I know most people find this type of thing taboo, but considering the really complex circumstances, can it be understood?
I was in a long-term relationship with a guy for four years. He consistently lied to me throughout our relationship and generally treated me like crap. His friend (not best friend) witnessed this and was angered to the point he started losing respect for him as a friend. The friend developed feelings for me and hated seeing me get treated that way, but would never interfere in our relationship. I never cheated on my ex or had anything going on with his friend while we were together. I tried breaking up with him multiple times and even had suicide threatened on me to emotionally manipulate me and keep me around.
I finally broke it off and started getting very close with his friend within a month after breaking up as he was going through a tragedy of his own. Me and my now current boyfriend were honest with my ex about our intentions as soon as we started to sense that anything more could come of it. My ex was able to forgive me because of the things he put me through, but not my boyfriend.
Me and my current bf are still together after over a year and are absolute soul mates and in love. We have not engaged in sexual relations either, so it's not like that. We are seriously considering marriage in the next few years. I know most people find this type of thing taboo, but considering the really complex circumstances, can it be understood?