Anyone have experience with Army fraternization policies? Tricky situation...?

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Hi, I'm currently in a relationship with somebody who is two paygrades above me, enlisted. We're both National Guard Soldiers and we're both in the same line of work, although he is not in my direct chain of command with the way the section is comprised right now. He isn't from my unit, although he had to transfer to deploy (he volunteered). He is planning to transfer back as soon as we're thru with deployment.
Anyway, my real concern lies in the fact that unless we're married, our finances will go to our parents instead of to each other should something occur, and our medical decisions wouldn't be made by each other either. We plan to be married, but were going to wait until deployment is over. Now we're worried about our legal rights, should something occur in country. Are there any ways to be married during deployment in our weird situation, would that violate frat. policies and could it be UCMJ punishable?
 
As retired Air Force, I can say that we don't consider that fraternization, because by definition it can only happen between office and enlisted. The Air Force calls it an "unprofessional relationship".
When my wife and I were dating and both active duty, I was also two pay grades above her. There were some in leadership who frowned upon it but there's nothing they can do other than keep us in different sections to avoid the chain-of-command issue.
 
As retired Air Force, I can say that we don't consider that fraternization, because by definition it can only happen between office and enlisted. The Air Force calls it an "unprofessional relationship".
When my wife and I were dating and both active duty, I was also two pay grades above her. There were some in leadership who frowned upon it but there's nothing they can do other than keep us in different sections to avoid the chain-of-command issue.
 
It doesn't sound like you have much to worry about if you're both enlisted, and he's not in your unit. If you're planning on making it legal, do it, then no one can say anything. If you were going to get married anyways, why not do it before he deploys? He'll get extra money and you'll be the beneficiary if anything happens.
 
Personally, I would just elope and have a real ceremony when you get back. It clears all that mess up, although I would not call the situation fraternization.

If you don't want to do that, just create wills that state each other as the receiver of poss and money.
 
Fraternization policies are more concerned about officer-enlisted relationships, not enlisted-enlisted.

Finances.... you can change your benificiary to each other, even without being married. It doesn't have to be your parents. Hubby put me as his when we got engaged. No big deal!

As for getting married while he is deployed... sorry, can't help you out on that one.
 
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