...it doesn't get to court? In the UK but welcome advice from anywhere.
My husband cheated on me by way of dating a girl for a whole year, all of last year and some of this one. They broke up in February. But I know the stupid man kept going back to her, but they didn't have sex again.
Then he STUPIDLY invited her to come talk to him in his truck one day last month (he had turned up to her work to "sort things out with us and be mates again").
She got in to talk to him - and that's the basis of her allegation, she said he tried to touch her but only over her clothes, but that he did get his pe*is out.
He was arrested 2 weeks ago and bailed in the morning, after being questioned all night.
Yesterday he was bailed again, the bail was extended. I don't know if it was extended because the file simply has not yet gone to the CPS OR because she produced a CD of texts he had sent her - one of them said:
"I will f-ing hurt you bad, and rape you good, you f-ing wh0re" (or something very similar).
There was NO PHYSICAL EVIDENCE, I HAVE TO STRESS. The text alone does not show that he raped her on that day! It might at worst show 'intent' but is not proof.
But I think he has been told that it might come down to a "who is more believeable" issue - in which case, it might just go to court.
Has anyone (UK or US or otherwise) got any experience of how their husband/partner dealt with a similar allegation - whether or not it got to court? Which not all cases do. Some are dropped and never make it to court as the CPS does not think it is in the public interest.
Can the whole experience of the arrest and the allegation scar a man for life? Or can they forget and move on?
How are wives supposed to cope? Will this always affect him? Will he now not trust any woman? Including maybe me? His wife of 12 years?
My husband cheated on me by way of dating a girl for a whole year, all of last year and some of this one. They broke up in February. But I know the stupid man kept going back to her, but they didn't have sex again.
Then he STUPIDLY invited her to come talk to him in his truck one day last month (he had turned up to her work to "sort things out with us and be mates again").
She got in to talk to him - and that's the basis of her allegation, she said he tried to touch her but only over her clothes, but that he did get his pe*is out.
He was arrested 2 weeks ago and bailed in the morning, after being questioned all night.
Yesterday he was bailed again, the bail was extended. I don't know if it was extended because the file simply has not yet gone to the CPS OR because she produced a CD of texts he had sent her - one of them said:
"I will f-ing hurt you bad, and rape you good, you f-ing wh0re" (or something very similar).
There was NO PHYSICAL EVIDENCE, I HAVE TO STRESS. The text alone does not show that he raped her on that day! It might at worst show 'intent' but is not proof.
But I think he has been told that it might come down to a "who is more believeable" issue - in which case, it might just go to court.
Has anyone (UK or US or otherwise) got any experience of how their husband/partner dealt with a similar allegation - whether or not it got to court? Which not all cases do. Some are dropped and never make it to court as the CPS does not think it is in the public interest.
Can the whole experience of the arrest and the allegation scar a man for life? Or can they forget and move on?
How are wives supposed to cope? Will this always affect him? Will he now not trust any woman? Including maybe me? His wife of 12 years?