Any advice would help quite a bit.

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My Dear WTFers

A few things have been bouncing around in the cavern that is my head. This girl at work has seems to have taken quite an interest in me. She is pretty ace and really good looking. Problem lies in the fact that I am unsure what to do, I have asked her round to mine and she has accepted...that's good. The thing is if I should try and make an effort and see if things could perhapse work. I will be moving away in September for a year and she is in her final year at Uni, then heading of to USA in the summer and then doing a masters somewhere else. Would it be worth making the effort only to be dissappointed in the end? Just fool around and make it mean nothing? I'm not too fond of the latter option, but I quite like this girl and I don't want something that I know cannot last more than a couple of months. It could be totally ace, but then...

Bollocks!
 
Well does this girl know of your plans?

If you like her it would be a waste to not take this opportunity, if she knows your plans and shes okay with that , well you are both going into this with your eyes open. If you two really hit it off despite your plans you can still make time for eachother, okay it may be difficult, but it doesnt mean that it wont work.
 
life works in funny ways and no plans are ever definate!
As long as you both know what is happening and you are both honest about the situation, things should work out!

You know what relationships are like, when you get to know her as a gf things may not work out anyway (although I hope this isnt the case!)

Nothing is ever certain so why miss what might be a great oportunity?
Anyway, I wish you the best of luck and Im sure you will make the right choice!
 
Base hun, even if you try to be "smart" and decide it's not worth the potential heartache, it won't keep you from heartache and yearning for her while trying to keep your feelings at bay. Talk to her and let her know where your life is headed. Date her, enjoy each other while you can. Even if it doesn't end up that you two will stick together, atleast it will be one hell of a time together and memory. Sure, it'll suck when you 2 part ways. It will suck all summer long trying to hide your feelings though as well... so, I'd say enjoy it while it lasts.

The only thing I would like to say is this. IF you two decide to date and then part ways. For the love of GOD, don't pine away for her. If you two are able to continue the relationship on a long distance thing, great, if not, please move on. I know it would be hard but I would hate to think of someone like you just pining and aching and never really commiting to other girls because they don't "measure up" or you're afraid you might commit and "bump into" this other girl some day... blah blah. I saw so many great guys in college that did this and it was just pitiful. They finally got passed it but damn it was pathetic to see. By the way, these guys that did this did not end up with their old flames, in fact most of their old flames ended up not being quite as wonderful as they thought. This happens alot when romances are broken up because of simple geography instead of the normal passion dying-out or getting old. Then they start using this person as a basis for comparison or standard for every person after that. In reality, these girls could probably not measure up to the ideals that the guy has set for them either. Fantasy takes over and the girl becomes so exalted not even she could measure up.

Anyway, don't waste time analyzing your feelings, just go with them. Life is all about living, loving, hurting, and growing. You will kick yourself some day if you never take chances like this. ;)

It's better to spend a short time with "wonderful" than a life time of "what if".
 
Base,

I say try it, tell her your life plans and if you two can make it work, that's great. If not, you won't go through life wondering.

"The thing about regret is it's better to regret something you have done, than to regret something you haven't done"
 
lol Honey. I've been in the same boat he is and i know how badly a missed opportunity can eat away at you heheh.

that and i just woke up :happysad:
 
/me throws apple butter at Honey

I bless thee anyway.

But yeah, I love honey. It is also good, but it holds no candle to the holy purity of the divine apple butter!
 
leaving soon ....




hm , wont help for you to stay away as the others have said.

Go with her, enjoy the fun while it last, and when she leaves you will meet someone else.
 
Well, things seem to be okay. I have spoken to her about this whole delema that is in my head, howere we did go out to the pub last Thursday evening and that was really good, we just talked about anything and everything. Going to the movies with her his Sunday, touch wood things go well.
 
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