Anxiety/work..please advise

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Hi guys just hoping to get a little advice here. My situation is this. I suffer from anxiety pretty much on a daily basis some time or another..some days worse than others. my main symptoms would be nervousness, panicky feelings, shortness of breath ..just an overall feeling of not being able to relax. basically i just deal with it with no meRAB. Well here is my problem which has caused my anxiety to hit the roof. My job is sending me to another store (i work in a grocery store) to have some training. I dont know whats wrong with me..I have been questioning my confidence in my job...thinking i will forget everything when i get there....to just feeling stressed about doing a good job for this other store. It is also the unknown that has me stressed (not really sure what i will be doing and if i can do it. ) This is so wierd because i know im good at my job but i know im good at MY store. Also im not really the type of person to care what others think of me...but that is also on my mind. Im so tempted to just tell my manager that i cant go and just explain to him what i go through. Im just afraid i will get there and have a full blown panic attack. Any advice would be appriciated. Thank you.
 
Finally, someone with the same problem as I have!!! I know what you are going through. I have been married for 19 years this month. I cant make myself even go out east to visit my in-laws. I feel the same ways about getting new jobs and just being around people in general. I take Lexapro and it helps alot. However, I do question myself on things that I know I can do, But worry that someone may not think its good enough. I force myself to do things outside my comfort zone hoping to over come this. Try going to the other store just to prove to yourself you can, and all will be good. I am 40 years old, and still battle this. I think some of it is low self esteem. Good luck!
 
thanks for the reply...i have re read it about 5 times...haha to get it in my head. I know you are right ..i need to go into that dang store with my head held high and just do it!!! Can i just ask you..have you been dealing with this most of your life? I am 34 and i would say it started around 25 or so. I dont know what triggered it or anything. As far as work..ive always tried to be good at my job and take pride in what i do. As far as socially i think i never really learned how to be social outside of nightclubs. i started going when i was 17 and felt so comfortable and confident there and when that ended it was like now what? I think if i had inlaws i also would be nervous wreck. Thank you for wishing me good luck. i appreciate it.
 
I can totally relate to your issues. I'm 50 and have been dealing with this all of my life. I guess the only medication I've taken is a glass or two (sometimes three) of the evil grape better know as wine. I also get real anxious when venturing away from my comfort zone. I do make myself do it, mostly with success but with some failures. I'd say that you should just go to the other store. Most of the anxiety will probably be anticipatory and once you begin your job you might be just fine. Good luck!

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I agree with the other posters, I think you should go. It may be uncomfortable, you might have more anxiety/panic-y feelings, but you are the unwilling participant in a battle for your freedom. Your anxiety is attempting to dictate where you can and cannot go, and every time you give in and allow it to control you, it becomes stronger.

With that said, it may be very difficult. Are you on any meRAB now? If not, would you consider trying some? They can be extremely helpful for people who suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. There are the short-term meRAB you can use on an as-needed basis, like Xana & Klonopin, then there are the long-term meRAB that you take daily, like Zoloft & Paxil.

My only other thought would be that you go and visit the store prior to your transfer there. If you have the time, you might as well demystify the stigma that you're creating in your mind about this store. Go shop there, spend a couple hours wandering around, and all the while pay particular attention to how anxious you are. The whole time you're there make your body relax, and take nice deep breaths.

Good luck!
 
Hi there! I also get anxious at work. You are not alone and we are all here if you have any questions. I took Cyrabalta in the past for anxiety and depression but didn't really care for it. I went off all meRAB for a couple of years and decided to try Prozac this year. I don't feel depressed anymore luckily, but I was still very anxious.

I also find that it's best to just go ahead and go for things you are nervous about. It's hard, but it makes you stronger. I get very panicky because I've been moved around at my job a lot and often feel kind of "out of the loop" and still am learning a lot of things. I get scared that I don't know enough when I have to meet with managers for discussions. I am always so nervous and anxious. Once I just go out there and do it and do my best, I feel a sense of achievement. I don't want anxiety to get the best of me, so when I can overcome a tough time, it makes it easier the next time around. Taking Prozac (it's only been about a month) has helped me relax a little bit more, although it's not a miracle. Most of my improvement has been with different things I try on my own. I get anxious and jumpy and it was starting to affect my memory, so I write down EVERYTHING. I use my planner all the time and make spreaRABheets of things I need to remeraber. Anxiety can make your mind all over the place and kind of spaced out!

One thing that has helped me so much has been running. I go for regular runs about 5 times a week. If it's very hot outside, I run indoors and listen to music on my iPod. It really just clears my mind and helps me relax and I've gotten into great shape. When the weather is nice, I go running outside in the evening. Even a walk is good! Exercise has made me feel a million times better. Even when life is very busy, I squeeze in time for a quick run. I've had to go kind of late when I wish to be going to sleep, but it's so worth it. I also find that a good healthy diet makes me feel good about myself and gives me more energy.

Being organized also really helps me. I like to keep my home very neat and clean because I feel calmer. If there is a mess, I feel anxious and uncomfortable. I just try to keep things neat and keep away clutter.

I hope you are able to find some peace and relaxation! Just remeraber to take little steps at a time and that it's a very gradual process. I know I have a long way to go, even with the improvements I have made. Best of luck to you!
 
I can totally relate to anxiety about work. I think just about everyone gets some sort of anxiety about work but for some reason people like us get it worse. It's funnty because I was on vacation at the beach for a week and I felt pretty good, but now I'm back to work and my mind gets to thinking... and then you know what happens, anxiety returns.. Hang in there, you're not alone.
 
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