Anxiety and anger

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Anxiety coupled with anger. Fun life.

My anger is increased when I'm around my in laws, particularly a sister in law and my mother in law. Both have a negative outlook on life, although they both pretend they don't. They are both loud, self-centered, and obnoxious. The noise they produce raises my anxiety and my anger. When I feel anxiety and anger, I feel like my chest is being tightened with a rope or belt and it's hold on me is increasing.

I need help. I feel my anger rising and rising. I can't control my anxiety when my anger is so high.
 
I could have written this post. However, I would have changed inlaws to boss.

Try to take in deep breaths and ignore what is being said entirely. The slower and larger breaths I take, the better I feel.

Good luck.
 
I know exactly how you feel. I think all my anxiety really began because of my in-laws. Just because I wasn't bad mannered enough to say whatever came into my head,(like they do) they took it as a sign that I couldnt really be as nice as I seemed to be so have treated me like an outsider.

I have been very stressed lately about them as they all live so close to me so I cant completely avoid them!

Do you speak up to your inlaws? I'm trying to do it little by little but it's just not in my nature to be ignorant and hurtful to people.

I hope things get easier for you. They're not worth getting yourself upset.
Hopeful
 
I follow the advice of Marshall Rosenberg,and it works for me,(nearly 100%).He says that he will not let barbs from others bother him,because these worRAB are
only the thoughts coming out of their mouth,and he is only concerned with their
feelings and neeRAB.These are others' unmet neeRAB,which he cannot address at
that instant of rant and rage.I use this on my daughter,prior to this,we never
had a minutes civility for five years.Now,if slings and arrows are thrown this way,I cannot be provoked to retaliate,but make some benign statement.We now get along,with little problem.He has books and booklets which are easy to understand.He has negotiated between Israel and Palestinians,and concentrates on having empathy(I feel your pain caper). Luck to you....Bill
 
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